The following are comments that we received here that you may have missed. This is by no means comprehensive, just a few that stood out to me.
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Comment on “Outed by Instagram“
Hi Kandi,Elizabeth Skye
I hope I can convey myself in a coherent way here. I don’t have the gift of clarity like some of you do. I absolutely love the people like Amanda and yourself who can clearly explain anything. Maybe it comes with experience. I’ve been away from any online presence and social media for several months now to avoid the drama that my dual personality has caused and dealing with many personal issues. But I’ve never stopped haunting your site on occasion and have kept myself informed by it. I can’t seem to stay away, even though I’ve typically just kept to myself. It’s always so enlightening and refreshing to read what you and your fellow contributors have to say. I love how grounded you all are and it makes me miss talking with you so much. Many of you older ladies have offered me support and a listening ear if I ever needed someone to talk to. I have so appreciated that. Many of my own questions have been answered and my knowledge increased by reading the posts and comments from your site. It is such a valuable resource to me. I just recently came back to Flickr. I signed up for Facebook once, using my legal name and persona and immediately had hundreds of suggestions for friends of people that I knew or had known from even when i was a young child in school but had nothing to do with for over 20 years. How did Facebook know that I had ever had any association with some of these people? It was creepy and I got rather freaked out. I ended up never even connecting with anyone or using that account. Other than that I have never done any social media activity except Flickr and YouTube and even that’s quite limited. The more I hear about the major social media sites, the more I want to avoid them. I really enjoy having a wholesome life outside of the internet and social media. On the whole, my electronic devices are just distractions, they are not my life. I am so glad to hear stories like these. I try to learn as much as I can from others to avoid the same experiences. But of course I still have to have some of my own experiences and I’m grateful for them. I am carefully returning to a limited online presence as Liz. I cannot escape her and for now, online is still about the only way she can escape to express her true feelings. But reading stories like this makes me more determined than ever to have nothing to with those social media sites. I’m so grateful to have places like this where I can safely talk to my “sisters.” Thank you for being there for me even when you probably didn’t know it and I was apparently absent.
I wish I deserved all of this, but I will humbly thank you so much!! When I started this blog, what you have said here is exactly what I had envisioned. I will acknowledge my bias here, but I truly will stack up what we do here against any other blog or forum. We actually foster help, love and support. There is no pettiness, backbiting or sniping at each other. If there was I would delete it and guess what? There never is any.
It thrills me to no end to get comments like this or just yesterday, I got an email from a reader in New Zealand. I’ve also gotten communication from someone in Germany and of course, we are strong in the UK. So while I 1,000% agree with you about social media, I have been successful in using it to build our community, make real human connections and make those invisible bonds with so many ladies.
Sweetheart, thank you for that belated Christmas gift!
Comment on “What I Was Able to Accomplish in 2022“
That is quite a list of accomplishments and you certainly should be proud of the many ways you represented the trans community in such a positive fashion.
For me, 2022 was a major turning point in my life. On May 5, 2022 I walked out of the house dressed completely en femme for the first time and have not looked back since. I was out 127 times through year’s end and now spend the majority of my time, in or out, as Fiona. I expect 2023 will be a very interesting and fulfilling year.
All the best,
I want to congratulate you on finding a way to live life on your terms. I am so happy to have heard that and BTW, that’s literally going from zero to sixty in 2 seconds! You are amazing! Just the best way to start my day today!
A comment from “Clocked“.
I love your advice: Be SMART, be APPROPRIATE, be CONFIDENT, and be VISIBLE. This advice has worked well for me. I am generally not worried about my surroundings, but like you suggest, I am smart and don’t put myself in places that are not safe. My style of dress has evolved over the past five years to be more appropriate. Yea, like many girls, I went through a “I wanna be a sexy 20 year old” period. LOL. I think confidence is key. Hold your head up, shoulders back and down and make eye contact. Finally, I am definitely visible. I remember when I would only go out at night. I felt like a vampire. But then once I started going out in the daytime, I never looked back. Once again, thank you for all the great advice.
I am always thrilled when I get comments. But when someone comments for the first time, it gives me a sense of purpose. We are doing something really good here and then when someone confirms my experiences, I am just in Heaven!
Life is not easy, there are difficulties for everyone, rich, poor, old, young, black, white, male, female and then there is us. And we are simply the most amazing people on the planet. You keep being the fabulous you that you are!
I am writing this on NYE and you just started my new year off perfectly!!!!
A comment from “Coping“.
Kandi, I coped in similar fashion. I never admitted to myself I was a CDer. I siloed that behavior off. For much of my life I focused on my work to not let my mind idle. I played sports in HS. I never smiled for the camera either. I considered smiling “showing others” my feminine side that I wanted hidden. I was embarrassed and ashamed of my feminine side.
But then I semi-retired before COVID. And being semi-retired it allows one more time……to think. Uh oh. One day while dressing, my egg cracked. I admitted to myself for the first time I was a CDer. No more denial. I eventually told my wife through a letter I had her read and it went amazingly well. And now almost 3 years later from that time I dress every day at home and consider myself Trans (but won’t transition) much like yourself.
It really is amazing how the mind works with coping. I was in denial for most of my life. I repressed it. Now every day I feel like I look back and re-examining my life through a new prism without denial and it is kind of interesting to review my actions and non-actions.Christina Cross
I guess the thing that strikes me to this day, I was like so many others. Almost, literally, exactly like them. Like you. I knew I was not alone that I liked to wear women’s clothing, as that is all I would allow myself to admit, to myself. But how I processed it, wow, so many of us do so almost exactly the same, on almost exactly the same timelines.
You are just awesome. You readers out there, yeah you, you are awesome too!
Thanks so very much for your affirmation here!
Also from “Coping” via a text to me.
Some are infrequent commenters and all touched me like you don’t know……
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