Welcome to my little corner of Kandi’s Land.  To introduce myself, I live in the land where the right side of the road to drive on is the left, where words like colour and oestrogen are peppered with unnecessary vowels and where we keep our clothes in wardrobes, not closets.   When I first joined Kandi’s cohort of Contributors, I was so far in the wardrobe (errr, Amanda, it’s ‘in the closet’, not ‘in the wardrobe’) that I was convinced that Amanda would never see the light of day.  But things can and, in my case, did change.

If, a few years ago, someone had told me that one day I’d be booking and checking into hotels in my female name, travelling on public transport, talking to sales assistants & servers and it would feel like the most natural thing in the world, I wouldn’t have believed them.  And yet thanks to the inspiration I have had from Kandi and the other contributors here, nothing about my feminine life phases me any more and those, and many more experiences like them, have become realities.  

I am never happier than when I am able to present as the woman I’ve always wished I’d been – if feels like life could not be any better and the truth is that it really couldn’t.  But I take nothing for granted and I know that acceptance comes not from demands but from being the best version of womanhood that I possibly can.  It’s not about ‘passing’ or anything like that, just striving to show that I respect what it means to be a woman and doing my best to live up to their expectations.

And to anyone who reads my writings and thinks ‘I could never do that’, that was me just a few years ago.  But dreams can come true once we banish our fears and there is no better feeling of walking down the street and trying to remember what it was that we were frightened of.  I’m always happy to give help and advice to others so if you’d like to ask me something, please feel free to get in touch via the Contact page.