So I challenged the ladies who are kind enough to spare you all from me to give me their bucket lists. The idea, as you know now, came from Dee. It was fun hearing them come up with their thoughts and ideas. I am so blessed to have these wonderful girls be a part of this place. So without identifying who said what, here are their lists, all mushed together in random order.
- Get a bra fitting at a lingerie shop
- Visit a wig salon for expert advice on choosing and styling wigs
- Fly pretty, including going through TSA security
- Go to a casino
- Go dancing
- Take a class
- Model clothes
- Figure out new places to go and new things to see
- Attend a wedding
- Get my ears pierced
- Attend the Opera
- Attend a Rock Concert (Rocker Chick look)
- Play Craps (Mama needs a new pair of shoes)
- Attend a Goth Event
- Get Acrylic Nails (keep them for a week)
- Go to a New Year’s Eve Party
- Get Glammed Up for an Oscar Watch Party
- Attend the Kentucky Derby with a crazy hat. (Okay, I’ll settle for any race track.)
- Afternoon Tea at the Drake Hotel (High Class attire)
- Get paid to do a Burlesque Performance
- Amateur Drag Performance
- Attend a Wedding (LGBT Wedding please)
- Model in a Trans Fashion Show
- Put (he/them) pronouns on my work email signature (this is the only one that scares me).
- Have a meal with a friend(s)
- Spend a couple of full days being me
- Get my nails done
- Have a Sephora makeover
- Be a bridesmaid
- Fly pretty
- Take a week vacation
- Get a part time job
- Be invited to a baby/wedding shower
- Go to a wedding (not an LGBT one)
- Be fitted for a wedding dress
- Get my ears pierced
- Get laser hair removal
- Get my natural hair dyed
- Have a bigger female wardrobe
- Lose weight to wear a swimsuit
- Take a flight and go through check in
- Be myself for a week straight
- Write a book and publish as myself
- Go to a sporting event
- Go to a dance club
- Do a wedding dress photo shoot
- Start a coaching/mentoring business for the LGBTQ community
- Write a children’s book and publish as myself
- Go to a large CD/Trans national event
- Take a cruise
- Take a class
- Figure out new places to go and new things to see!
A pretty aggressive list ladies! Many of us have done many of these things and some of them may not be of interest. But these wishes are what makes us who we are, woman at our core. Don’t ever take any of this for granted, never take an outing for granted, never take the perfect dress for granted. Savor each and every experience! I am bearing down on my 1,000th time out and with some photographic prompting (which is why I know how often I have been out), I can probably tell you something about any outing. Some one I met. A meal that was purchased for me. A hug I received. An out-of-the-blue complement. A memorable conversation.
I love all of my readers and I love my Contributors, those that grace us weekly with thoughts and experiences and those that do so when they are able.
There really is no place like home and for me, Kandi’s Land is home!
Hey kids, I am going stealth for a week or so. Yes, the blog will be maintained, I’ll keep my eyes on things but I am bookending fabulousness. Not fabulousness to you, but indeed to me. Family first and then the single greatest thing I have done and get to do again. Kandi will be dormant for a brief time, but let’s just say I will not miss her for this week. New content on the other side, but in the meantime, some awesomeness rewarmed for you.
7 Responses
Kandi,
What a list….. I can proudly say I’ve done ten yes ten of them!
Am trying to do more but live in a DADT situation.
Davina
That’s wonderful!
Hi Kandi,
I’ve possibly done 14 of them , but in five years I’ve done so much more , perhaps I should list those for others to consider .
OK on my bucket list would be taking a cruise as Teresa ( I have done several but sadly in male mode ) and to take a flight . Obviously some of the items may not have been achieved by women , perhaps we should ask if some of us are slightly crazy to even consider them . The most enjoyable thing I’ve done is attending charity events , somewhere in the archives I have a picture of me wearing a spice girl Union Jack dress .
😊
Kandi,
Since my last reply , I’ve now booked a cruise for 2026 and this year taken a coach holiday in Cornwall and just this week a second coach holiday with my National Trust Group friends .
Words can’t really describe how good the feeling is to be totally accepted , so it’s not so much about the transformation anymore but more about how far I can push the envelope as Teresa so my bucket list has taken a new direction .
Unfortunately, I’ve done none of them. 🙁 A few items that I’d love to do and some good new ideas. Who knows what the future holds. As always, hugs and thanks Kandi.
Don’t get discourage Gracie, you time will come.
Interesting bucket list. I’ve had a Dream List since the 60’s. I call it a Dream List because I never thought I would ever accomplish any of them. Twenty years ago, many of those items in the Bucket List above along with others were on my Dream List. Since then my life has allowed me to accomplish these:
• Got many bra fittings at several places (most VS)
• Get gel-acrylic nails continuous for a decade, toe polish for longer
• Regular brows, legs, Brazilian waxes
• Wear heels
• Have a large female wardrobe that I wear in male mode
Then there are items that I plan on doing (sometime soon? Maybe this is my Bucket List)
• Visit a wig salon for expert advice on choosing and styling wigs
• Have a makeover
• Get laser hair removal (DYI version – I already have the laser)
• Get my ears pierced
• Go to a large CD/Trans national event
• Ski with Trish
Finally, there are those that if they happen, good. If not, okay, I’ll live.
• Model clothes
• Fly pretty, including going through TSA security
• Attend a wedding
• Attend a Rock Concert (Rocker Chick look)
• Have a meal with a friend(s)
• Be a bridesmaid (I have tried on a bridesmaid dress)
• Be fitted for a wedding dress (I have tried on a wedding dress)
• Do a wedding dress photo shoot
Make you own Dream List, but get discourage if they don’t happen. Never give up.
Cali