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Damn, This Really Makes Me Happy!


On March 9, 2023, I had my final improv class and decided to check out the Plexus networking event prior. I was in a very good mood beforehand, in my usual photo session before walking out the door. And I thought I looked terrific this day! What say you?

To emulate this outfit, here’s a similar skirt, blazer, mock T and pumps.

I was at the networking event for about an hour. It was a lot of fun as I saw a few folks I knew and got to know some more lovely people.

Then I went to class but stopped beforehand to see my favorite yogurt saleslady and her 100 watt smile! This was probably the final time I will take an acting class. The truth of the matter is that I do believe I can make money acting. But the costs of the classes to help me get there and the opportunity costs of not doing what I do now to make a living far outweigh any possible income from doing this.

I will continue to seek creative things to do, maybe improv jams or one-time workshops and will seek to become a part of the comedy scene around town. I have evolved and I will continue to evolve as I mentioned recently. If I wasn’t constantly seeking to remake myself, many of the awesome things I have done would never have happened.

I made sure I hugged a few friends before I left and was in such a good mood, I went home and hammed it up a bit before getting cleaned up.

Now that was fun!


13 Responses

  1. Kandi,
    In the distant past I would have been extremely envious of you. You have so many different outfits, you have fabulous wigs, you have a variety of shoes, you have a trim figure, and you get out frequently. I have none of those.

    A recent article I read describes envy this way:
    “Extreme envy can also be harmful because it can lead to feelings of mistrust, resentment, and anger. Overly envious people often treat others that they believe to be better than them with contempt, and they may try to ruin the reputations of those people to get ahead. Those who live with extreme envy are often negative, critical, and pessimistic. They can be sarcastic and act indifferent to those around them.”

    To some degree that was me, and it was detrimental to my well being.

    But reading your blog for years has shown me how charitable and helpful you are. Your feminine life has made you a better person and because of that you give back to others in a meaningful way.

    And now when I see all the pictures of you in the wide variety of women’s wear, I only feel happiness. Happy for you, but more importantly I just feel happy.

    Thank you for being you. And I am very content being me.


    1. Jocelyn,
      I not jealous or envious of Kandi (except possibly her waist), but I am a little envious that she was able to create a vibrant life as Kandi. I know it takes a lot of effort to do.
      Many years ago I realized I could not finanically exist en femme. However, I found a way to be en femme while in boy mode. I push the boundaries of boy mode and enjoy those rare times I am able to be em femme while in girl mode.
      The best each of us can do is just be happy and have fun.

      1. Cali,
        With age, usually comes maturity.
        You said it perfectly: “ The best each of us can do is just be happy and have fun.”
        We should all be rejoicing in other people’s happiness, as I have come to do.

  2. Jocelyn,
    Envy is a strange thing at times and as you say can be very destructive . It’s a sad fact it happens too much within the transgender communtiy , again we have kandi to thank for breaking some of those barriers down , in a smaller way I do my bit .

    Pehaps you should consider people may now envy you for making the lovely steps to meet Kandi . I’m not sure if I’m envious or just frustrated because I’m several thousand miles away , OK it’s possible to jump on a plane , perhaps one day I just might , that’s if Kandi has no objections .

    1. Teresa,
      It would be a shame if anyone in the UK would be envious of me. You people have so many other TGs and CIS you can meet with. Kandi might be one in a million, but that only means there are thousands of others like her, or even better.

  3. Kandi,
    I’ve just remembered I have an almost identical skirt in the same colour , so far I’ve never worn it .

  4. You look amazing and so happy. You always dress well and as I have said to you before you have great taste in clothes and accessories. I would glad wear any of your outfits. Hey a question, why do they call it cross dressing? I’m never cross when I’m dressed! Love ya Kandi thanks for inspiring all of us 🙂

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