As many of you know, the life we lead, the needs we have to express our femininity, however we define it for ourselves, is not easy. It may well bring you joy, it may well bring you contentment, it may well destress you, but it still has its challenges. As you know here, being Kandi brings me absolute joy. You can see that in all of my pictures and I believe by now, I have presented significant evidence that this is indeed my truth.
But there still is this bifurcation in my own mind. Me/Kandi, who I am today, or this evening or next Tuesday? I have made certain wardrobe changes and body changes over the years that have done things to merge the two people that I am. Nine years in and I am still trying to find that proper balance and this day, February 9, 2023, was no different. Life is not as simple as simply slipping on a dress, doing my makeup and waltzing out the door.
Here is a similar skirt suit, take a look!
This was a Thursday, which for a few more weeks, means an evening improv class. So I made a full day of it, beginning my day with a sales call as Kandi. For the day, I was dressed in a lovely skirt suit. Something like this checks all the boxes: presenting as a business woman; being productive for the household; moving from appointment to activity seamlessly as a real working woman, trying to normalize it all.
The call was a waste of time. I won’t get too far into what I do to generate revenues. I leveraged up a volunteer relationship to get the time of the person I met with. She was polite but didn’t understand a word I said. Oh well, good experience.
I sat in the coffee shop next door for about an hour, doing some work, responding to emails and writing for this here blog.
I then drove back across town to meet my great (new) friend Melissa for a wine tasting, then we were joined over time by Andrea, Donna and our Sherry. A lovely few hours for me.
Then back across town for improv. A lot of driving that day, but a full day and on many levels, a “normal” day.
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