By Jocelyn Johnson
I really like to be out around town and being totally appropriate. Of course for mature women that would be leggings or capris and a simple blouse and comfortable shoes.
I have posted on Kandi’s Land my recent shopping excursions of me being totally appropriate. But my oh my, I do want to wear a skirt sometimes. So I put together a casual outfit that I still think is OK.
On previous outings I had purchased a teal t-shirt and a floral skirt, but I had never worn them while out shopping. Those, together with black hose and red sneakers, were my attire for my most recent shopping day.
I first went to the local bank to get some cash, and then planned to go to a couple of consignment boutique shops to look for a pair of light coloured capris. All my previous purchases were at big box stores, so an intimate boutique would be a whole new experience.
The SAs at the consignment shops were very welcoming and helpful and we had a pleasant conversation. None of the other shoppers seemed to care about me, nor I them. Unfortunately boutique shops don’t have a wide range of sizes so I was unable to buy the capris I wanted. Maybe next time.
The experience was another step for me in the world of femme shopping. Every girl should try it.
A Happy Jocelyn
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Jocelyn,
I guess like you many who live in cooler climates have to be sensible and wear clothes that keep you warm , for the majority that means trousers or jeans . I know we can dress them up but after weeks we just want to break out and wear a skirt . Last week I knew I was heading to a large out of town store and if I try items on it’s easier in a skirt and blouse , this meant going to my painting group first in a skirt and boots , I got the odd glance and a few nice comments . Yesterday I had to visit my old home town for a dentist appointment and after I planned to visit an old friend who runs a boutique dress shop , again because I was going to try items on I wore a skirt and blouse with my boots . I was the only one in the dentist waiting room wearing a skirt , which attracted a few looks not because of being trans but simply wearing a skirt . Sadly my friend had closed for a holiday break , she knew I was going on a cruise and was most insistent I pop if for something to wear while she had a sale on . My last stop was an old fashioned hardware shop , everyone loves them but sadly few towns now have them . I was looking for a long flue brush to clear an obstruction in my woodburner chimney . The SA had worked there for many years but she didn’t recognise me and called me ” a lady ” on the intercom to direct me to the right section . Finally I met an art teacher who runs the life classes in the art centre , he keeps asking me to submit some artwork so I can join his local group , I really must do it as I love that group .
It was still great to be out wearing a skirt , after so many weeks of trouser wearing , I truthfully find them more relaxing and comfortable to wear despite being more feminine .
Teresa,
Thank you for the comments and your strong support of skirts.
I have only ever owned one dress. Most of my wardrobe is skirts and sweaters. I personally think my body shape does not work with a dress.
Like you, I find a skirt very easy to wear. Plus it clearly tells the world that I am feminine. A skirt also allows me to decide how much leg I want to show. I can have the skirt pulled way up and show off knees and a little above. Or, I can have the skirt down below the knees and present as a fashionable older lady, which is who I am.
But no matter the length of skirt, I always have hose on my legs.
This is what is great about being a woman, fabulous fashion choices.
Thanks Teresa.
Jocelyn
Jocelyn and Teresa,
I totally agree with you both on the feel and look that a skirt conveys. I recall in days past I wrote an article praising the versatility and wonder that the world of skirts portents. It was published in KANDI LAND I believe in 2021-22. My current wardrobe consists of two closets a full array of skirts, dresses, women’s suits as well slacks, gowns and sleepwear. They all give me great pleasure and joy to run my fingers through the racks and the feel of the soft fabrics as a reminder of how lucky I am to this very much a feminine experience. We are fortunate to experience these reminders of our inner selves.
Big hug to you both and KANDI AS WELL the all readers OF Kandi land .
Marie,
As we all know, a skirt and blouse/sweater is so easy to put on and to match the mood of your day. Hosiery is optional based on the weather, and so are the type of shoes.
Thanks for the hug, and one right back st you.
Jocelyn
Good morning my friend. I must add, my very pretty friend with the very pretty legs. And they are gorgeous so show them off girl. You’ve got it so don’t be afraid to flaunt it. I agree too that if I’m shopping for clothes I want to be wearing something easy to remove which of course would be a skirt and top. But for just being out with friends for the day it’s skirts and rompers for this girl. My goal is to get all the Cis girls in my town back into skirts and out of pants. They’re much more comfortable than pants any ways. I loved the photo’s of you and Kandi. You both looked so pretty and so happy and made Trish sooo jealous 🤭
My Dear Friend Trish,
Thank you so much for the compliments. You are so kind. But when it comes to great looking legs, YOU are the Queen.
I’m happy to hear you are setting the dress example for the ladies of BC. They need your guidance.
Thank you for your very nice thoughts about Kandi and me. We were happy. BUT, it could have been you with us; and you chose Mexico instead of snowy Cleveland. Please get your priorities right, lol.
Love,
Jocelyn
Trish,
PS – if you like my legs, have a look at my KL post coming this Thursday.
Jocelyn
Trish,
I would call that ‘Mission Impossible’. But good luck trying. I have been trying to get more women to wear heels. Only convinced 2 or 3 in ten years.
Jocelyn (and others)
I mostly do my shopping when I have 3 + hour breaks at work, so I do in ‘so called male clothes’ none of which are men’s. I had no problems trying clothes on in the women’s section of department store or women’s boutiques (including VS). The sales staff have been great.
Cali,
I have ladies’ clothes shopped in both male and female mode. Never a problem. People have to keep seeing us out and about, and realize we are no threat. We are just part of the community.
Jocelyn
I love going out shopping as Terri. I remember one of the first time shopping enfemme in the early 80s. A friend and I were followed around by 2 saleswoman. Another time a security guard followed me outside the store and called the police. Needless to say times have changed.
I can’t remember the last time I had any problems shopping. My advice is to dress to blend, but that’s me.
Terri,
You are so right about shopping for skirts or dresses or tops. It just feels so good.
I generally do dress to blend in, but that doesn’t exclude skirts.
Jocelyn
Terri M,
Thankfully I never had any security problems but I did have so much fun with SAs and sometimes other customers . I posted a while ago asking other members to recall some of those stories On Kandi’s Land , at a bad time in my life those moments meant so much , I still smile now when I recall them .
Teresa,
I have never had a problem shopping for lady tops or skirts. In fact I have received very nice comments from the SA while checking out.
Jocelyn
The problems I had were a long time ago. People’s attitudes have changed greatly over the years. Today most people are too busy to concern themselves in guessing the gender of another. I remember a woman coming up to me and complimented me on my appearance. Needless to say it made my day
Terri,
Well done. I bet you deserved the compliment.
Jocelyn
Great outfit Jocelyn. You look fantastic. I love wearing skirts, although I have never been dressed in public, I have been shopping for clothes with and without my wife. The last time I went to a chain fashion store here in Australia. I had a great experience with the sales girl . I was in boy mode , I waited until the shop was pretty much empty and went in an enquired about a really nice pencil skirt in the window, when the girl asked what size I was after , I just casually said I’m usually a size 8 , she immediately replied, you can try it on if you like. Which I did! In end we were walking around the store and she was suggesting things and showing me things I thought I’d like , it was such a nice experience and i don’t even care about the other customers who come into the store. I later put a really nice review on social media say how nice the shop and staff were. It’s great to feel accepted and to know there are nice open minded people out there. 🙂👗❤️
Chris,
Thank you for the very nice compliment. You’re so kind. I felt great that warm sunny day, and a skirt seemed like the best way to present myself.
You being a size 8 is very impressive. I’m many sizes bigger than that.
Thank you for the great story of one of your shopping trips. Sales people are usually very helpful and considerate.
One of these days you should go out dressed in public wearing one of your skirts. You will absolutely love the feeling. We are all very shy and afraid the first time. But after that the outings begin to feel normal.
Thanks again.
Jocelyn
Hi Jocelyn , you are most welcome. I loved that feeling of being accepted, it was so nice. I look forward to the day I go out in public for the first time. I wish I could wear skirts everyday. They are soooo comfortable and feel great on. I’m loving my satin skirts the most at the moment, the feel amazing on, so flowing and feminine. So glad to be able to share my story with you. Sending hugs your way 🙂🤗
Chris,
Enjoy your skirts to the fullest. I bet you look wonderful in them.
A big hug going right back at you.
Jocelyn
Thanks Jocelyn . I appreciate that. I’m not sure how I look but I feel amazing when I’m wearing a skirt. One day i will have some photos that i will share. Thank you for taking the time to chat 😘