Things I Have Done!

These are things that are indeed possible! A reconsideration of a post from August 2021.

So as not to get repetitive, everything on this list was obviously done while dressed and probably is not a comprehensive list. It is in no particular order. I am doing this list to show those out there who have a fear of being in public what is actually possible. Things added since the original post in italics.

Been in a movie, as two separate characters. Now about 15 movies, a few big budget sets for which I was paid.

Gotten two separate traffic tickets. Three now.

Gone to traffic court twice (for the same ticket, and won). Did so again, won again (I am undefeated as my own defense attorney, but I would recommend you not put yourself in similar circumstances.)

Been to the symphony. I have lost track of the events I have been to.

Had a professional transformation makeover and photo shoot.

Done photo shoots (having done my own makeup).

Worked the Space Jam world premier! Had an actual conversation with Tom Hanks.

Shopped for anything and everything (including lingerie) in both male and female modes.

Volunteered significantly for many different organizations, including mainstream charities, community theaters, art museum and many other places. I am now working, when practical and advantageous, as a woman.

Attended conferences and/or group gatherings for those like myself. I generally attend at least one business networking event a month as a woman.

Been an integral part of two separate church congregations. This, sadly, has again come to an end.

Had numerous bridal fittings. Been a bridal model at a few bridal expos.

Had numerous bra fittings.

Get my hair cut at a salon (remove my wig, get the cut, replace the wig).

Met numerous people at mainstream establishments with whom I have remained friends.

Taken numerous Sephora make up classes.

Had numerous makeovers.

Been to the beach several times.

Had drinks and meals purchased for me by total strangers.

Taken cooking classes.

Attended the theater.

Attended a murder mystery (alone).

Crashed a wedding.

Attended a handful of weddings with a musician friend who was performing (once actually sitting on the side of the altar).

Had minor surgery.

Frequent doctor’s appointments. I almost never attend a medical appointment anymore as a man.

Taken hot yoga classes.

Taken spin classes.

Worked out at Planet Fitness.

Gotten a massage.

Currently am taking improv classes.

I am sure there are a few things I have missed, but the point is, if you want to do something, then do it!

I was going to do my own bucket list, but I really don’t have one as you can see, I have been able to have many different experiences. I would love to be a bridesmaid in an actual wedding, that I know! No bridesmaid yet, but I have been to a wedding dressed.

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Love. A simple word. The solutions to all of our problems in the world.

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Okay ladies, share those things that you have done that would fall outside the scope of what we all do (we’ve been shopping, to restaurants, a bar, a movie theater, etc…). Spin an interesting experience.

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8 Responses

  1. Kandi you continue to amaze me, not only all you have done and planning on doing.
    As that old saying goes you’ve come a long way baby
    Hugs Rachael

  2. Kandi,
    You’ve done all this a Kandi wich is amazing , I would think your list is more comprehensive than the majority of women .
    I agree why not do these things but then for some it isn’t so easy , you set the bar very high which is a good thing but at the same time we must take care not to denigrate other people because they can’t , all I say to that is , ” never say never !” I still pinch myself that my life is a reality and not still a dream .
    Perhaps I should make a list because I do sometimes forget the very special days , did I really do those things ? The most joyous thing is finding your life is normal , people just accept whatever they see me as and allow me to be part of their lives . This allows me to start giving back , joining various groups to play an important and useful role , it’s so lovely to hear people say , ” we really missed you “, when you couldn’t make certain events . Sadly today I have to attend another funeral , I didn’t know the deceased but I’m there to support a lovely lady who has been there for me .

  3. I know it’s not a contest, other than with yourself. However, my list is substantially shorter, but growing.

    Remember everything we do has to have a ‘first time’ before it can happen again (and again). That first time is usually both exhilarating (because you are overcoming a fear) and frightful at the same time.

  4. All pretty amazing
    The one thing I did do was go on a cruise
    No male clothes in my bag
    Had my natural hair that was longer at the time but also brought a wig too.
    It was such fun and had no issues
    I also went to my 40th HS reunion as Rachael

  5. Kandi,
    I am usually silent, but I felt , compelled to thank you for this community. I haven’t acted or been in a movie. But I am living my truth thanks to your exploits. Being part of a congregation is satisfying as is being part of a volunteer organization but nothing is more exirilating than walking around a pool deck in a bikini, owning the moment and living your truth.

    Thank you so much for your inspiration through the years!

    Vanessa

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