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A day in the life....

January 19, 2024, a very snow day. Plans I had made needed to be canceled. But I did have back-to-back virtual meetings scheduled. Here you see what the other parties saw.

Being a Friday, I needed to do the weekly grocery shopping, so I basically made a “housewife” day of it. I tended to a few work duties and then out the door I went!

It was just a treat casually doing the shopping, interacting with others, not a soul spinning around looking at me. When I checked out, the person in front of me bought over $300 of stuff, so she took a while. But she also thought the world revolved around her, on the phone the entire time, not helping the poor cashier with no bagger and of course, being rude to other patrons (me) by taking so long. When she left, the cashier was clearly pissed but we laughed about it. I bagged all my stuff to help out. Since I get a significant discount because my wife works for this grocery chain, I always make sure I help out. She was so kind to me, admiring my jewelry. Just a lovely interaction.

I went home, put the groceries away, worked a bit, made dinner and then got flipped back before my wife came home. Would she care if Kandi greeted her? Not a bit, but I would. I never want to want to push any boundaries or ruin a good thing.

I have to admit, I rather enjoyed being dressed all day, with the exception of the wig. It doesn’t bother me until I am not out. When I am a woman out in society, I am not aware of what is on me. I don’t feel the things I wear that I don’t otherwise, the earrings are there like they belong, my breasts are as natural as I imagine they might be, nothing feels special or different. Once I get “off stage”, I do become aware of a tight pair of heels, a hair hat on my head, or the minor pain of wearing earrings for pierced ears without actually having pierced ears. You get the point. I wish that day would come when I am not aware of all of this, but after 50+ years of none of this (principally), old habits, old feelings, old sensations, die hard.

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  1. Days like you describe actually are best
    I don’t go full fem much but when I do I love all those feelings of just me being me.
    I forget the minor discomfort of my ear rings and maybe a bit tight shoe fit.
    I often wonder had I fully transitioned would that mostly go away and become quite normal in many ways it has but of course I did not transition but am happy where I am now free to be fluid as I am and pick an choose my full fem days

  2. I LOVE THOSE DAYS JUST BEING A FEMALE WITH ALL THE SMALL DELIGHTS, BODY MOVEMENTS … PERFUMES AND JOY OF SMILING AND BEING ACCEPTED AT THE STORES AND POOPING INTO MY SALON FOR A QUICK GIRL CHAT TANYA , ONE OF THREE PERFECT CIS GIRL FRIENDS.

    MARIE ANNE

  3. Kandi,
    “When I am a woman out in society, I am not aware of what is on me. I don’t feel the things I wear that I don’t otherwise, the earrings are there like they belong, my breasts are as natural as I imagine they might be, nothing feels special or different.”

    I too used to feel what I had on but, except for my heels, I rarely am aware of those things now. It’s just ‘normal’. For example, I use to feel the acrylic on my fingernails, now I am only aware of them when someone comments on my nails. However, with 4 inch heels, I need to be aware of where I step, especially in stilettos.
    Cali

  4. Kandi,
    I have to accept the wig is an integral part of me , it goes on first thing in the morning after my makeup and it remains there until I’m ready for bed and my makeup comes off . This is why I choose my wig wisely not only is the colour and style important but also it’s wearability .
    This doesn’t mean I don’t relax at home but also must consider who may knock at my door so it must always be Teresa that answers .

    Rachel,
    I guess the question of the feeling going away is only apparent if you dress in male mode sometimes . When we talk of earrings hurting , or shoes being too tight or too high , or a bra that may irritate it’s something women contend with on a daily basis . We learn very early on that sexy underwear isn’t very comfortable for everyday use , short skirts can be too draughty . For all that I wouldn’t change a moment , male mode feels so alien , I feel incomplete , on the odd occasion I feel people are staring at me far more .

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