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Lisa’s Journey

Lisa L. shares her story with us!

By Lisa Lane

The clarity of hindsight makes one realise that an early preference for gentle pleasures and an aversion to macho sports must surely have been portents of things to come.  From first pubescent sexual stirrings to tactile attraction of female clothing, this T-girl’s early flowering was of the everyday garden variety and, if you’ve read one such story of furtive closeted teenage years, you’ve read them all.  I suppose one thing which makes this odyssey stand out, if at all, is that I have always been completely content with the way I came out the factory – no purges or sudden resolves to suppress my femme side.  I have long since accepted that gender is a continuum rather than a binary state; that I am placed somewhere in the middle of this spectrum; that I am now at my comfort level; and, because I am a part-time girl, quite content with all my appendages. 

In recent years, the gilded cage at home became rather constricting and I began to experience a certain isolation and need for peer interaction.  So, on the spur of the moment, I wrote to a Vanity Girl.  The year following became a veritable whirlwind of revelation.  The Club accepted me into its ranks and I began to venture beyond the four walls.  There was the Texas-T convention in early Spring; the Be-All in Summer and the Southern Comfort in Fall.  I then began to explore the wonderfully vibrant gender world right here on my very own doorstep in downtown Toronto.  I am an occasional member of Xpressions, a fun-loving Canadian T Club located in the Toronto area.

Reviewing my images, I’m sure it comes as little surprise to read that I love glitz, glamour and classy, elegant style.  I believe that, to be truly passable, it is generally necessary to dress in a very subdued manner in order to blend in with the crowd.  Being an unrepentant show-off and lover of high fashion, the cost of being invisible is just too high a price to pay.  As a consequence, I will always attract scrutiny, although recently, I have begun to question the belief that this necessarily implies that I will always be immediately “read”.  I adore suede, leather and furs.  My primary T pursuit is enjoying life and having fun.  My interest in the political or organisational side of the T movement is slight, at best, although I do love to receive mail and always feel honoured when others seek advice on T-related matters. 

Married to a beautiful, loving, completely supportive, classy lady who shares my fashion interests, I am happy, hetero and monogamous.  We enjoy travel, theatre trips, dining out and dancing in congenial settings with other sophisticated, interesting, gender-gifted T-girls.  Anyone who feels inclined to write may be assured that I will reply promptly and considerately.  I can be reached at


3 Responses

    1. Dear Rachel,

      Very many thanks for taking the time to write. Glad you enjoyed my scribblings. Being a “T” girl is such a wonderful gift. It lets one see the World through the prism of both male and female and it is my belief that this makes for a gentler outlook on life…..Lisa.

  1. Hi Lisa,
    I enjoyed reading your post. It appears your journey is very similar to my own both in how you’ve handled it and your need and desires to be in the public eye. The only difference is my wife is not as supportive as yours but she is headed in the right direction. Thanks for posting this article.

    Trish ❤️

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