This week and this week only, Gwen’s weekly wisdom will run on Friday as tomorrow is a very special day in Kandi’s Land history!
How to find yourself on the gender rainbow
Embarking on the journey of gender identity, especially as a transgender person, is like setting sail into uncharted waters. It’s deeply personal and unique for each individual. This voyage isn’t about looking to the world for a map; it’s about drawing your own.
You’re the captain here, steering through the waves of societal expectations and norms, navigating by the stars of your own truth.
Taking ownership of this journey means tapping into your inner compass. It’s about recognizing that the direction you choose isn’t determined by the winds of external opinion but by your own authentic sense of self. It’s about acknowledging that you might not fit neatly into the binary boxes the world has laid out, and that’s more than okay—it’s something to be celebrated.
Picture it like this: You’re on a road trip, but instead of following GPS, you’re picking the destinations that resonate with you. You’re not just reacting to the signposts and directions others shout out; you’re picking the routes that feel right. Sometimes, you’ll take the scenic route; other times, you’ll find shortcuts.
The point is, you’re in the driver’s seat, choosing how fast or slow you go, which sights you want to see, and where you want to stop and rest. It’s also about being okay with the fact that some days, you might feel like you’re at a crossroads, unsure of which path to take next.
That’s all part of the journey. It’s about taking a breath, checking in with yourself, and knowing that whatever you choose, it’s your choice. It’s your road, your rules.
In casual convo, if your friend is sharing their transition journey with you, you’d probably say something like, “Mate, this is your story. You’ve got this. It’s not about what the world expects you to be; it’s about who you feel you are inside.
Your identity is yours to define, explore, and celebrate. You’re not just following a path; you’re blazing a trail. And that’s pretty awesome.”
So, in essence, for anyone on the gender spectrum, it’s not about seeking approval or waiting for the world to give you the green light. It’s about owning your identity, being proud of the person you are becoming, and loving yourself every step of the way. It’s about recognizing that it’s your journey, your narrative, and every step forward is a chapter that you write for yourself.
Dr. Gwen Patrone