December 2, 2014, Kandi was born (see the About page for the backstory).
2015 we dug in and did not let anything stop this girl! I knew nothing about our world, then I pushed into hyperdrive, and you know where we are now. A trip to Detroit to get a makeover and wig, my first time in public. My first time in front of ANY other human being. Then a trip to see the glorious Amanda Richards (hope you are well, you are an inspiration). Then my first time doing everything myself and off to Warren (OH) to the Funky Skunk.
I am by no means a finished product, even now. Evolution, baby. I go back to my ice cream analogy. Like ice cream? Most do. My life is a big bowl of vanilla ice cream (you need to know, vanilla is the favorite flavor of all ice creams, so I mean it that way). But Kandi is all whipped cream, sprinkles, crushed peanuts, hot fudge, etc… you get the point. Eat a bowl of ice cream daily, maybe not the best thing but you should be okay. Eat a Kandi-style sundae daily, probably not great for your health.
As I approach my second decade as a woman, I reflect on the absolute joy it is. I never feel “wrong” as a man, never. But…I always feel, no great word available here but we’ll go with, INCREDIBLE to be a woman. But that feeling is like a good high, glorious, but not sustainable 24/7/365 (or else it kills you). There are days I feel Kandi is killing me, many of them of late. But you see the pictures here, the significant majority taken just before heading out the door, not yet having any experience other than getting my Kandi on. Do I look happy in them?
Here is a very brief look back at 2015. Horrible makeup skills, but great guts and willingness to experiment personally. I did things I could not even dream, not even fantasize about. And this was only the tip of the 2015 iceberg, so many landmark events I neglected here.
Yes, I look horrible
North Coast Men’s Chorus
Money poorly spent
I paid for a makeover that made me look like Bozo the Clown
I miss those guns
To anyone venturing down this road for the first time, two things. One, it can be glorious, wonderous. Two, you will suck at it time and time again. Breathe and allow yourself to learn. And from me to you: 😘.
6 Responses
Kandi,
Congratulations on your past decade. Evolution is just the name of the game, and you are no different. Cis women have decades to develop their look, unfortunately, we don’t get that time. Your journeys out in the RW are inspirational to us all. Here’s to many more decades.
Cali
Appreciate that my friend, more than you know right now…
It’s been an amazing 10 years following you my friend
I’m defiantly slowing down my girl these days except maybe when I’m home
Just very busy mostly because I’m selling my home so lots to do
Thanks for being you and sharing Kandi with us all
I’m so glad I visited and got to see this post tonight, Kandi. I honestly and truly love every pic and totally disagree with your criticism of some of them. You’re a total doll in all of them and it is fun to see your evolution. Though I’ve only been aware of this site for less than half that time, I’m so thankful to have a sister and kindred spirit like you. As time goes by, I hope to do as well in the real world as you do as Kandi and eventually be the same kind of person and example to others that you are to me, which I’ll always be grateful for.
Kandi ,
Congratulations , ten wonderful years in the making . I’m sorry but something must be wrong because I can’t see the pictures .
I’ve just realised it must be about thirty years since Teresa came into being , would it be OK to post a back story with some original picture here ?
Teresa, Just reload the page whenever you cannot see the pictures. Happens to me once in a while. And thank you!!