“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”Maya Angelou
A recent comment on one of my Flickr photo posts, generated a comment from my dear online Friend, Nikala Fox. In part, she wrote, “It’s amazing to feel sexy and especially to receive a compliment, as it’s something that rarely happens when we are dressed as a male.” Many of us who post photos of ourselves on Flickr seem to get endless compliments, most as basic as “You are beautiful!” or “You are a gorgeous lady.” That can sometimes feel almost as good as just being dressed in feminine attire. For me it enhances those feelings.
She went on to write, “Sexy male clothes aren’t a thing.” She is right. A female-to-male friend of mine, laments that while I can dress as a woman and get much attention, the opposite is not usually true. Women wearing male style clothing is so common, that there is little they can do to get noticed or draw a compliment. And therefore, the don’t feel the reinforcement of masculinity.
Now I realize why I decided to start wearing dramatically colorful male clothing early in December. While planning my trip to Nashville for the professional style session, makeover, and photo session, for the first time the style of what I wore became more important. Since then, I am wearing bright shirts, many with bold, intricate patterns. I am wearing colorful socks. My shoes range from bright blue or mustard yellow to green or hot pink. Like stylish, thoughtful women do, I am coordinating colors from head to toe.
And the result: I am getting many compliments as I am out and about. A few of my male friends offer feedback such as, “Who dresses you dude?” That makes me smile because I want to say, it’s my secret friend Crystal. And the women who frequently shower unsolicited praise on me about my colorful ensembles are more gushing and effervescent. “Wow! I love your colors. You look great!”
How does wearing women’s clothing make me feel? Fantastic.
How does wearing colorful men’s clothing and getting rave reviews from women make me feel? Fantastic.
It is no wonder women have a wider range of colorful colors and designs on their apparel racks and in their closets! They like getting noticed
Try it! Discover the one way you can dress masculine and feel feminine in the current world most of us inhabit.
Wearing women’s clothing or men’s clothing is what we do! It is a version of what we say! The important realization is how the clothing and/or the compliments make us FEEL!
PS – Wearing a smile and sharing it with others is the most essential and simple feminine accessory you can wear…along with a huge helping of self-confidence.
April 13, 2023