By Jocelyn Johnson
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The year 2021 was very different for me in both male mode and female mode.
All the negatives were on my male side:- no two weeks of golf in Florida in February- no four weeks of scuba diving in the Caribbean in January- no international travel (even though the States is a foreign country I don’t consider going there as international travel)- no coaching my baseball team- no coaching my basketball team.
Now for the good news as my female self.
I posted on YouTube five more videos of my feminine outings. None of the videos are long, nor special, but they do show me being out there. That makes 17 videos in all I have on YouTube; just search for Jocelyn Johnson.
I had a nice morning walk with my friend Alison in the local city park. I wore a denim dress, full makeup but no wig. COVID restrictions prevented getting a hair cut for over six months so I thought my hair was long enough. I don’t think I will go wigless again.
I went to lunch en femme for the first time at a local restaurant. It was great and everyone was friendly.
I had my first manicure and nails painted at a salon. And then I proceeded to show them off around town and had lunch at the British Tea Room. There were no issues at anytime during that wonderful day; just being happily accepted for who I am.
I became comfortable out and about doing regular things, just blending in, being the woman that I am. I do prefer wearing a skirt and sweater, or dress while out, no matter what the other ladies are wearing.
I really look forward to 2022 and experiencing new “firsts” in my life as Jocelyn.
Let’s get over the pandemic this year and celebrate who we all are.
Bless you all.
Jocelyn
Editorial comment: Jocelyn is on the Mount Rushmore of Kandi’s Land-ers (acknowledging we have well more than four heads on our Mount Rushmore).
20 Responses
Quite a year ! Congratulations on all your firsts. Your hair looks great. I love being able to use my own hair. I love going to my hairdresser and watch her do her wonderful job. Hope this year you continue your firsts
Yours Terri
Thanks Terri. It was quite a year for me. I never dreamt that I would do some of those things, but with the examples set by others, and some encouragement, I figured why not! And I feel wonderful for having done them.
I look forward to more “firsts” in 2022.
Take care.
Jocelyn
Gosh, Jocelyn, what a lot you’ve done – I’ve clearly got quite a lot of catching up to do!
And the cherry on the cake? The British tea room obviously!
Joking apart, I loved reading the positivity in your account, it just goes to show all of us in the closet that the only thing stopping us breaking out is ourselves. I look forward to reading about even more adventures from you in the coming months.
Amanda,
What absolutely kind things to say; thank you.
I really enjoyed my days out, and I experienced no ill remarks or gestures from anyone. Everyone was very accepting of me, and I was extremely accepting of myself.
The pandemic and cold weather are keeping me hidden for awhile. I probably will not be out again until April or May.
I hope you will be visible more this year than last. Be safe and best wishes.
Jocelyn
Ahhh, nice to be reminded of the British tea room outing once more – one of the defining moments in my evolution that convinced me to step out of the closet and into the outside world.
I have much to thank you for.
Amanda,
You are most welcome. It is extremely important that we share our journey. I have learned from others and gained confidence, and I am very glad to hear that you have been helped in some way by me.
And now the Kandi’s Land world is getting great insight from you. Your plethora of posts are wonderful for all of us the learn from.
Ah, the British Tea Room, a very friendly and welcoming place. You Brits know a thing or two about hospitality. A perfect location for a lady to experience life.
Thanks for commenting.
Love,
Jocelyn
Kandi,
I am very flattered that you have put me on the KL Mount Rushmore. My face in stone is very appropriate.
But there really should be a “Mount Kandi Robbins”. You are the pillar of womanhood that we all stand on. If it wasn’t for you, many of us ladies would not have achieved greatness. Thank you Kandi for setting a wonderful example for all of us to follow.
2021 was a great year for me. Thanks for the memories.
With great love,
Jocelyn
Everyone,
BTW, the YouTube link no longer works for me. Sorry.
Jocelyn
Jocelyn,
Feels sort of bittersweet reading this again. Your journey is taking you in a different direction.
Yet, like Kandi I celebrate the trip down memory lane. As we age, the lost of things we once could do becomes longer, but we still have our memories!
Lisa
Lisa,
Great to hear from you.
Memories can be bitter sweet. But I seem to only remember the good times. I have lots of photos that I frequently look at which keep me happy in my feminine ways.
Aging does change what I am able to do these days. But I have no regrets.
Love you,
Jocelyn
Jocelyn, it is so nice when you have some many wonderful memories that you should cherish. I have similar memories of all the things I have done as a woman. It was wonderful hearing your accomplishments and first as the woman you are and always will be.
Julie,
Life should be wonderful all the time, but we are thrown curves from time to time.
My life would have been very bad, but when I finally let my femininity show, I became so happy.
You and I are walking down similar paths. Let’s keep the memories alive.
Be happy no matter what.
Love,
Jocelyn
Jocelyn, I am so happy when I present myself as a woman. I am happy to have so many lovely memories. My wish is that I will someday be able to express my feminine self. I am a happy person, I have my grandkids and they are wonderful. My trips visiting the National Parks also make me happy.
Supporting each other is so important and will help us get through these difficult times.
Hugs Julie
Julie,
I hope your wish comes true.
I’m here for you. As I know you are there for me.
Jocelyn
Jocelyn,
Enjoy your words of wisdom an the relaxed nature of your comments, adventures and photos. Keep enjoying life.
Marie Annie
Marie Anne,
Thank you so much for your very kind thoughts.
Your support is much appreciated.
We all have to keep enjoying life.
Jocelyn
Jocelyn,
You made me reflect on events from my past , thankfully i was already living my life as Teresa so lockdown didn’t stop me being ME !
I was thinking further back of the time I learnt to scuba dive in Minorca or the family learning to ski , they now remain just good memories . I had a problem with my balance a few weeks after diving so I was advised not to dive again but I’d like to think there’s a possibility of one more trip to the slopes or perhaps not . My GG friend has said she’d like to have a few holes of golf , I bought some women’s golf shoes sometime ago .
So there’s always things we can still accomplish and some thing that are better left as memories , the challenge and the fun is doing it as a woman .I’m glad you enjoyed you time .
Teresa,
Thank you for your thoughts. I have many really good memories of my outings.
But all my sport activities have been in guy mode. The exercise is good for my mind and body.
As I have aged I have started playing pickleball. An activity more suited to my age bracket.
Take care,
Jocelyn
Hi my dear friend,
Your post was well before my time here at Kandi’s Land Jocelyn. It’s very nice to hear how well received you were on your time out and about, plainly evident in your beautiful smile in all the photos. You looked so pretty girl. I got excited when I read about your you tube videos but alas they were no longer available. Downer of the day 🥲
Trish, wonderful Trish,
Thank you for the very complimentary thoughts. You are a treasure and dear friend.
I’m glad you finally got to read this old post. It does bring back fond memories. I so much enjoyed being out and showing the world my feminine side.
At the time I had seen so many “sisters” making videos, I thought I should as well. Mine were OK and clearly showed my low-end wardrobe. I did receive many kind and helpful comments on my videos. And some date requests and even two marriage proposals. I think I should do a KL post on how to reject these types of proposals. Sorry for taking the videos down, but I think they ran their course. “Old news about an old lady”!
Talk soon, love,
Jocelyn