Succumbing To The Need

Scratching the itch. Falling off the wagon. Going on a bender.

Any cliches left?

Okay, I caved. The dam broke and this gal poured out. And she do so spectacularly, if I may say so myself. She was always there, as you have seen a bit here, but she has by no means been in all of her glory. Long gaps, like never existed before, left me searching.

Getting my girl on. The prom I never had (both figuratively and literally, I never went).

It was a Halloween themed Mix at The Cleveland Museum of Art, November 1, 2024. My “costume” was The Prom I Never Had. I got an incredible amount of compliments, such wonderful positive feedback. I spent the entire time there talking with friends, making new friends, dancing, having pictures taken and generally being treated like gold.

The most remarkable part of the evening was that three different people knew me from three different movies. And remember, I am background or an extra in all of my films, certainly not a focal point on any set. I was recognized from “Calendar”, “Shooting Stars” and the as yet untitled new Superman movie. On the Superman set that day, there had to be close to 300 people and someone remembered me!

There was too much to detail here (or frankly remember) this evening, so I’ll let the pictures tell the story.

That’s my great, great friend Pat with me at left and Holly and me at right. Holly was in Shooting Stars with me and we had a great deal of fun that day together!

Saturday, November 2, 2024 I woke up still wanting to get in some more Kandi time. My face was in pretty good shape first thing so I put on some light makeup and headed to the Cuyahoga Valley National Park. I took a four mile walk on the Towpath, keeping it short since I was later playing pickleball and then had to cut my lawn.

The walk was very melancholy for me. My friend Jim and I ran hundreds of miles on Saturday mornings on this section of the Towpath. It was my first time back there since the last time he and I ran together. That day he struggled mightily (ironically we only did four miles that day), trying to shake off the effects of something he had going on at the time in his lungs. About two weeks later he was diagnosed with the cancer that would eventually take him from us. My walk this day was right at daybreak, around 39 degrees. It was a peaceful way to start the day. Many runners, as we are wont to do, greeted me with a good morning, a waive or a smile.

And then, November 3, 2024, a photoshoot! It had been a while for one of these, but it’s like riding a bike. This one is getting long, so we’ll talk about that soon. Here’s a sneak preview.

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16 Responses

  1. WOW!
    I absolutely love you in the prom dress. You look so beautiful. I assume you were voted Queen of the Prom.

    You must of felt like a Princess all evening.

    Love,
    Jocelyn

  2. Kandi,
    To follow up on Jocelyn’s comment, you missed your opportunity to wear a crown as the Prom Queen.
    The prom dress really looks like fun.
    Cali

  3. Kandi,

    Love this blog and you and the dress make a superb combination…I can just imagine the gentle swish of the skirt and the inner thrill it gave you. The wrap and clutch purse were perfect accent pieces for a lady of statue.. LET US ALL HOPE SOME PEACE WILL PREVAIL ONCE ALL THE VOTES HAVE BEEN COUNTED AND NOT CONTESTED.. TIME TO PRAY.

    MARIE ANNE

  4. “Any cliches left?”

    Not a cliche but that “feeling,” I like to use the phrase “Gender Deprivation Anxiety.” That anxiety you feel when you can’t be your authentic self. A thirst that needs to be quenched. And then you “get your girl on” and you feel just right.
    -Christina

    1. I totally get that Christina! It builds up and up until you can get that relief , I actually feel physically sick sometimes when it’s been a while between opportunities. My wife lets me dress when it’s only me and her home , but that’s not often unfortunately. Love the line “ get your girl on! “ there is nothing better 🙂

  5. Hi Kandi , what a great idea having the prom you never had! You looked amazing, beautiful dress and I can understand why you got all the compliments. I would love to do a similar thing one day. I do have a trans friend who said she would love me to be a bridesmaid if she gets married. Could think of nothing better, I just hope that i would have the confidence to do it! As I said before Kandi , you are an inspiration to all of us and certainly glad our paths crossed. Can’t to see the photos from your recent photo shoot. I’m sure you look gorgeous as always. Lots of love Chris 🥰

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