By Trish White
I was asked this question some time ago. I had never really thought about it, so it made me really think about my feelings, my actions….everything. In this journey of mine. A lot of things came to mind that as a guy you would never really think about. I looked at how Trish interacted with her wife and I found that I have never asked her “what’s taking you so long to get ready”? Why, because I know, as Trish, that when I go out I want to look my best in the outfit I’m wearing. so once the outfit is chosen I want to make sure the shoes I’m wearing compliment my outfit and the purse I’m taking matches, as well as making sure my make up is just right and my accessories go with my outfit. Which is exactly what Cis girls do. I know now why women need the number of pairs of shoes they buy and why a woman’s wardrobe takes up as much room as it does. Trish knows why females love looking attractive and presenting their feminine qualities as best they can. When I’m out as Trish and I receive compliments on my outfit or how pretty I look my femininity is confirmed and all the time taken to present herself as the woman she has become is appreciated and admired.
The one thing I discovered in my journey as Trish is that women really aren’t dressing to impress men. They are dressing for the girls’ approval, this is the approval she needs because only they know what it took to be the woman she is presenting as.
I have learned, in my time as Trish that there are no gender boundaries for her. She doesn’t mind taking care of the household, doing the laundry cleaning the silver, washing the dishes or vacuuming the house, the whole time feeling good about herself. I have also discovered the softer more feminine side of things, that it is ok to cry and I do. I cry at things that I never used to such as tender emotional parts of TV shows or movies or what I read in books. I also enjoy what I never used to and that is ‘chick flicks’ or at least some of them. My wife and I were watching one and she said to me “you’re enjoying this?” I said “yes, actually I am”. I am far more compassionate than I am as a guy. I don’t mind showing compassion or feeling another’s pain and helping them deal with it, or consoling someone who’s in pain and letting them know I’m there for them if they need me. I found that as a driver Trish is far more less likely to speed and far more courteous than her male counter part and far less aggressive. Because of Trish’s inner self she is really and truly the whole package through her experiences as both genders. She wouldn’t trade this for the world. She’s received a gift that only a select few are fortunate enough to receive.
Oh, and towards the end of this I was crying. Hope you enjoyed it and gave all of you something to think about.