A Trans Father’s Love Letter

Dear My Beloved Children,

As I sit here in our Florida home, watching the sun dip below the horizon in that golden haze I’ve come to love, my heart overflows with thoughts of you both.

You are the lights of my life, the reasons I’ve pushed through every challenge, and the greatest joys I’ve ever known.

Though the world sees me now as Gwen, and I embrace this truth that has exploded as part of me in recent years, please know that deep in my soul, I will always be your father—the one who held you as babies, cheered at your games, and worried through your fevers and heartaches.

No outward change can alter the unbreakable bond we share, or the role I’ve cherished since the day each of you entered this world.

To my son, my steadfast companion in this new chapter: I remember the days when introducing you to Gwen felt like navigating uncharted waters.

It took time for you to adjust, and I’m so grateful for your patience, your openness, and the love that never wavered, even in those quieter moments of uncertainty.

Working from home allowed me to experience your growth since you were born and I loved it as I knew even back then, it was a rarity to be a dad in a sea of moms.

Now, at 28, as you launch your career here in the warmth of Florida after the hustle of New York City, sharing this home with you has been a gift beyond words. Watching you grow into the remarkable man you are fills me with pride that swells my chest.

You’ve taught me resilience, just as I hope I’ve shown you the power of authenticity. Know that I’m here for you always, cheering you on every step of the way.

And to my daughter, my brilliant light in the city that never sleeps: At 21, as a senior at NYU, navigating the vibrant streets of NYC, your progressive spirit and open heart inspire me every day.

You embraced this change with a grace that touched me deeply, reminding me of the fierce, compassionate woman you’ve become. I miss making you breakfast before school, the way you challenge the world with your ideas, and the laughter that echoes in my memories.

You’ve always seen beyond the surface, and in you, I see the future—bright, inclusive, and full of possibility. I’m so proud of the path you’re forging, and I can’t wait to celebrate your milestones, big and small.

My darlings, life has thrown us curves, but through it all, our family has only grown stronger. I may present differently on the outside, but inside, I’m still the same dad who loves you fiercely, unconditionally, and eternally.

You are my greatest achievements, my reasons to smile, and the anchors that keep me grounded. No matter where life takes us—whether in the sunny suburbs or the bustling avenues—I’ll be here, loving you with every beat of my heart.

With all my love, forever your father,

Dr. Gwen Patrone