Validation.
Acceptance.
I certainly have an ego, we all do.
My love of fashion.
To help a sister, to show the way.
To shine a light.
To let anyone dealing with all of this know that you are by no means alone.
To spread love.
To show how charity is a necessary part of a strong society.
To change one single mind today.
To be an example of what does happen in the real world.
To make a minuscule difference in the virtual world.
To preach kindness.
To foster community.
To be me.
Be smart, be appropriate, be confident, be visible. Societal change takes time. Get along to get along.
You will be seeing some repeats here as January does not look like a big “get out” month for me. But I do know when I rerun a post, all of you probably don’t remember it, I barely remember it and the new girl out there can see what is possible in real life.
Allow me to also thank all of you for the sweet comments. I simply am not able anymore to respond to each one individually. Your kindness is not overlooked, it means so much to me.
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Kandi,
Why do I post here ? To support Kandi in the great work she does , you tell us when you get **** days and you tell us when your’e on cloud nine , I wish more people could be as honest as you life would be so much more colourful .
That may be the best thing someone could say to me. My sincere thank you, Teresa!
I look forward to your posts, you give me hope that going out in the world will be a positive experience. You support means the world to me, and also giving us a platform to tell our story as well. Thank you so much.
It is not only my pleasure, but also my honor. Thank you, Julie!
Everything you listed here is exactly why spaces like this matter so much. Your visibility, kindness, and helping the next person along are so inspirational. Especially seeing you out living calmly and confidently.
Thank you, my blogging sister!
Hi Kandi, For whatever reason you choose to post. . . well, . . . I just appreciate you (and the others also) doing so.
Out here away from my virtual friends it is soooo lonely, out of necessity life requires a certain secrecy, some verbal restraint, and maintains incessant slow burn inner struggle. No doubt others here face the same challenges.
Your (and again others) being here so helps to relieve that lonliness, to provide the assurance that indeed I am part of a larger community of women just like me.
Even at home where I am privileged to fairly freely express my feminine self to my accepting wife, I recognize that acceptance is not of Charlene, the woman who is trans, but of xxxxx, the husband who finds comfort for his dysphoria dressing in women’s clothes. But somehow in ways I can’t explain and no doubt she finds impossible to understand that is not who I am really.
However coming here, for at least the few moments I can “hang around”, I am privileged to be Charlene, understood and accepted as the woman I am, by others who truly can and do understand.
So Kandi, yes everyone else, please keep coming, posting, and thereby helping those of us that aren’t yet or perhaps never will be in public have a place where we can be.
Know that your conversation with us directly or as we listen in are helping us mature inwardly as the women we are that we might finally have what you have so that others can truly know us totally.
Kindly,
Charlene