That Is the Question.
Back in the day, not too long ago actually, I had BURIED my femme desires. For 45 years I hadn’t had a clue.
As a young teen about 12, I had desires to try on women’s clothing. Due to the times, religious upbringing and confusion on my part, I buried my desires. I had no one to talk to about it.
It probably is more commonplace to have a desire to feminize than one might think. It’s hard to get exact numbers due to silence and taboo but estimates put men who feminize at a few million in the USA alone!
Many men stay as they are for an entire lifetime and many at every stage up until complete transformation.
As time has passed, it’s become less and less likely that I was going to re-discover the flower, but discover it I did at Halloween 2019. Gwen exploded from there.
Most men stay “as is” in secrecy because it satisfied their needs at that moment. Family considerations, job necessity and sigma or fear of being found out as a so-called freak.
However, there may come a time when their needs or circumstances change and it’s time to let their flower bloom as I did.
Sometimes it’s a sudden change in life, maybe the wife finds out, and is actually supportive. Sometimes the urge to feminize is so strong, they can’t live with themselves if they don’t.
But how do you know when it’s the right time to feminize and let others know?
How long should you stay doing unsatisfying things in life at the detriment of something you love to do but is controversial?
Many people stay because their job ‘pays the bills’ or because ‘it’s easy enough to stay and change is hard.’ Most stay because they don’t know what else to do, so they resign themselves to a lifetime of domestication, in the same situation simply because they are devoid of the spark to follow through.
Is that really any way to spend your life?
Waiting for the time to pass until your life is “just right” and then what? Nothing? You wake up and find you’re 50 or 60 or 70 full of regrets. I say that because I’ll be 61 soon and I know how that feels. I have lots of catching up to do.
If that’s where you’re at, it might be an idea to pray for a miracle that forces your hand so that you are forced to make that all important decision.
Maybe you’ve only just discovered your femme self and you’re 50 years old. Is feminization something completely new for you? It’s never too late to experience the exhilaration!
Sometimes it makes itself known at that in that moment that you need it.
THE FLOWER HAS ALWAYS BEEN INSIDE OF YOU WAITING TO BLOOM IN ITS OWN TIME.
Maybe now is the time to change.
You Are Not the Same Person You Used to Be
Why should we be the same person and stick with it for life? There are so many things we could become as we grow, so many new things we could discover.
Think about it: just showing up in life causes personal growth. If you apply yourself to any aspect of life, you will also grow from that. Feminization is just a natural part of who you are inside. Are you going to liberate or bury the flower?
You are not the same person you were 10 years ago. You are not even the same person you were 10 weeks ago, or 10 days ago. Growth comes from experiencing life.
PARTICIPATE IN ALL THAT LIFE HAS TO OFFER.
The more you engage with YOUR FLOWER, the faster and more dramatic your feminization.
With growth comes awareness and right behind awareness is clarity. You can learn most about your direction for the future by understanding your thinking and decision making in the past. I had to “peel back the onion” of my life to unravel my past so I could understand why I was having these feelings.
Making smart decisions and taking effective actions on those decisions can be improved with the benefit of hindsight.
When or if you start to feel “THE URGE”, observe anything that attracts your attention. Notice how you feel when you try on those stockings, dress, pumps, make-up or something you really enjoy. Make a note of the ideas that come into your head.
Not everything you love has to be for a lifetime or life-altering. Should you make the decision out of necessity or choice to keep your flower hidden, it’s OK.
Do what fulfills you, fascinates you, or makes your heart sing.
Then, when you’ve got your alone time to look at your flower, appreciate every second. She will. She will make your world a much more interesting place.
That’s for sure.
Be Strong. 💪
Gwen, I love you for who you are! Your undying positivity. Your perspective. For you!