By Nora Simone
The following article is posted here with permission of the author and Transliving International, the world’s leading magazine celebrating gender diversity.
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By Nora Simone
The following article is posted here with permission of the author and Transliving International, the world’s leading magazine celebrating gender diversity.
Click the photo below to read a wonderful article, by my dear friend!
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9 Responses
Hi Nora, both Pamela and her site ‘Just you’ Sounded interesting so I submitted my request to join. Hopefully they find me acceptable. Thank yo so much for your post.
Trish ❤️
Nora,
Pamela’s is one of tthe lucky ones , her piece is obviously written from living a comfortable lifestyle with her transgender needs . Her perspective on a woman’s needs are naturally precise without over embellishment , she has carefully balanced transgender friendships with other non transgender ones , I’m sure she could easly slip into full time without many problems . Being full time myself I can appreciate and understand her comments , one of the most important being getting to know yourself in your presentation as a woman and stick with it so people will fully accept you .
As member of two art groups and a local National Trust group I now have many more non-transgender friends , sadly my transgender ones have started to fade away . While Pamela’s piece is written to encourage more to fnd the confidence to spend increased time in the RW it’s not always possible for all , the outcome is a barrier forms which creates a rift . Sometimes I felt alienated at social meetings because they couldn’t always relate to my lifestyle , dressing in the RW was a different planet to many of them them , they knew circumstances would never let it happen .
Back in June this year I joined a 60+ tennis group to improve health and fitness , perhaps I jumped in at the deep end but I soon made friends and enjoyed turning back the clock , the big difference being wearing a skort and sports bra with a wig and makeup , annoyingly I over did it and damaged ligaments in my ankle . When I informed the organiser that I might drop out he told me people had already asked why I hadn’t appeared for a while and how much they missed me , I missed them because I enjoyed it so much .
Nice article as always. I’m friends with Pamela, she’s a hoot.
I want to say a big thank you to Nora for the interview and to Kandi for publishing it on her excellent site. Everybody’s story is different, of course, but I hope that the interview helps in some way with some of the common challenges we face.
Pamela x
My absolute pleasure!
Pamela and readers- We can celebrate this moment because Kandi has made it easy to do so. Connections, communications, kind words, and knowing we’re not alone is ample justification for her commitment. Now she again knows we appreciate it. Nora
You are far to kind my friend!
Many thanks for your comment, Teresa. I am, as you say, one of the lucky ones. My wife has always been very supportive after she got over the very understandable surprise and shock when I told her. I sometimes reflect on how different my life would be if she wasn’t supportive. It would have taken another path and I wouldn’t be the person I am today. Best of luck with the foot injury and I hope you’re back on the tennis court soon.
Pamela,
That was the dilemma I faced but it was a decision that had to be made irrespective of the consequences , we knew our relationship had changed , there was no going back on the words spoken . On balance I have far less regrets now than if we’d tried to continue as a married couple . The important point is we were free to make a new life without those pressures , it also removed those pressures from our son and daughter . I’m still there for them if they need me , I may look different but I’m still dad to them .