By Nora Simone
The following article is posted here with permission of the author and Transliving International, the world’s leading magazine celebrating gender diversity.
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Beautifully written Nora! Just as Linda’s lightbulb moment came at 30, I have also discovered that the duality is the point. It’s good to hear i am not alone in this.
Kris
Nora,
My thoughts are Linda is very brave in asking society to accept him/her as two states and yet she admires those who prefer one state over the other . Personally I thought I could live with the two states like her but it soon became clear I couldn’t , I needed to define my identity clearly , it not only confused me but others as well .
It was interesting to read she usually needed some form of trigger , I’ve obviously lived through that situation but now there is no need as I fully accept myself as Teresa . What she doesn’t desribe is what releases that trigger , what reverts her back to male mode but then she still feels the wife has the need for a husband . I have to admit that is tough decision to make when you have to deny being the husband , having to fight the dilemma of your needs over someone else’s .
Jan Morris desperately wanted to be the mother of her children but accpeted the next best thing was to father them , it still meant she could have a role as a parent , eventually she never lost the companionship of her wife Elizabeth although her parental choices was never totally accpeted by all their children .
From my own experience Linda will struggle at times with acceptance from society , this is why fulltime for me means exactly that , otherwise some people feel you are playing games with them , I also accept normality comes at a price but then life is all about compromises . The bottom line what makes you happy , what you feel comfortable with , I have no regrets about my male past but there is no room for him now visually . I also have to accept he is still in the core of my brain , yes he does have his uses .