With a long, cool woman in a black dress
Just a 5’9″ beautiful, tall
Well, with just one look, I was a bad mess
‘Cause that long, cool woman had it all
Well, I am 5′ 10″…
A great Hollies song from 1971.
The video this day addresses something that is an issue with many more than me, but while I have been relatively successful in dodging the haters, I am not immune. But they puzzle me and we’ll let our hostess explain.
I am a volunteer for the following event, and we had an organizational meeting on this day, September 30, 2026.
I spent a good deal of time prepping outfits for the upcoming fashion show, which was fun. Then I hit the mall on the way to our meeting and picked up a few cute dresses at H&M for $10/each. I did get some love on the shoes, made me happy.
I always beat myself up for spending the money on all of this, but I figured if I instead had stopped for a cocktail, I would have spent just as much money with nothing afterward to show for it, so I gave myself a hall pass.
The meeting was delightful, but uneventful and I headed home. I was very pleased with how my outfit came together this day.
Double Duty
I pulled two art museum shifts this week. June 30, 2022 was my first.
I wish I could spin a great tale, but I simply did my job and went home. I picked up a few things on my way there: a prescription, some pastries at Aldi and poked around a few stores. I always look to get out to as many places as I am able (and can afford) when dressed, simply to be and simply to represent. The more folks see someone like myself just doing regular things, the better it is for all of us.
Since I had the luxury of time, I shot my usual photos at a local shopping area. As I was doing so, someone drove past, rolled down their windows and said I was beautiful (they obviously were vision impaired). I assumed that was a compliment, as they could have said other things if they wished to be negative. It happened so quickly, I did not see them, but it made me happy.
Back again two days later, July 2, 2022. I stopped back at Forever 21 and picked up a couple more really cute and really way-to-young-for-me dresses as the $5 stuff was now buy one, get one free. I couldn’t resist. The museum shift was pleasant, but uneventful. I took a bunch of pictures outdoors before my shift started, so here we go.
I always love when I first walk into the museum and a guard tells me she loves my dress! I know I have done this now for a long time, but that still stops me in my tracks….MY dress!
8 Responses
Good Morning Kandi,
Your video addressing the ‘haters’ who make awful comments on peoples’ digital media is truly beautiful, yes, beautiful. Your sensibility, like many in our world of the delightful alternative modes of living and expressing oneself, is a very, very good one. You express thoughtfulness, civility, kindness, and an eagerness to find the best in those you encounter. If only everyone had your approach to their days. Every day is an opportunity to do something good, to enjoy the good and the beautiful we encounter (hopefully we are able to encounter such things and it is unfortunately very obvious that many people in the world do not have such an opportunity for all the reasons that we know all to well; ugh).
Your blog posts are always uplifting, always informative, and always welcome by so many of us. Through your presence in this media world, you make a difference in a great many lives even when you might not think that is happening.
Enjoy the day! Onward for all of us!
Best to you and yours,
Marissa in Ohio
Thank you, Marissa, for handing me a gift! Affirmation is always welcome.
Kandi,
As we’ve commented before the haters are hiding their identity in their keyboard , they are mostly faceless , I doubt they would have the courage to say the same comments face to face . Why do they do it ? Mostly because it gives them a feeling of power , trying to control you , it might also be driven by jealousy , they don’t have the courage to do what do so successfully .
I don’t do Facebook , I don’t need it so I don’t miss it , I accept media has it’s good points but it also has some very bad points , I have enough going on in my life not to lose sleep over it .
Please keep doing what you do , you have more followers than haters so forget them .
Thank you, Teresa! I really have few haters, my speaking up (this has been posted on many other places) is to stand up for all of us.
One of my favorite songs.
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Love the shoes!!! I have to ask. Where did you find them? What brand are they? Just gorgeous! And you are as well!
Thank you dear! I used to be a big thrifter, but now it’s actually become expensive. So what I do is heavily shop season ending clearance sales, particularly JCPenneys.
At some point, Penney’s will go bogo on pink ticket items and then $5 on all pink picket items. These shoes are Liz Claborne, and I picked them up for $5. What a steal!
I have received many compliments on them!