Gwen Squared

Bonus post Saturday!

I’m the keynote speaker at Atlanta Comfort Conference in September later this year. Tickets are currently on sale. Come watch me in action. I’d love to give you a big ol’ Gwen Hug!!!

YOU DO YOU, LET ME BE ME

It’s your friendly neighborhood trans woman here with some honest thoughts. 😊

Can I be real and brutally honest?

I know I’m biologically male and always have been. No disrespect at all to my friends who say “trans women are women” — I appreciate where you’re coming from — but for me, that just doesn’t fit.

I’M A HYBRID UNICORN 🦄

I see myself as a hybrid: the best parts of my old male self blended with the woman I’m growing into. Kind of like a unicorn, if you want to get playful about it. 🦄

I put in real effort every day to look, sound, and feel as female as I can. My thoughts and feelings are fully female, but I also understand there are biological realities I can never change, no matter how much I wish I could.

❤️I have so much love and admiration for women — I truly envy them and see them as this beautiful goal I’m always striving toward, even if it stays just out of reach. Still, being this unique in-between person feels pretty special in its own way.

I know some people might not like hearing this, and that’s okay — you do you. I’m just hoping you’ll let me be me too, without any hard feelings.

I’m not here to argue or cause trouble; I’m simply sharing how this experience really feels for me.

Maybe I can even help a little as a bridge between the left and the right in this partisan world we live in these days. Like a bit of common sense mixed with some progressive thinking, without all the shouting. Wouldn’t that be nice?

All I’m asking is that you listen with an open heart. You don’t have to agree with me at all. Just know this comes from a place of complete honesty and a whole lot of respect.

Thanks for reading, everyone. 💕

Dr. Gwen Patrone

#gwenpatrone #transgenderlivesmatter #transbeauty #ibelieveinyou #LGBTQSupport


MICROWAVE TRANSITION

Happiness? It’s always uphill. Just like pretty much everything that’s actually worth chasing in life. You don’t get the good stuff by coasting downhill with the wind at your back. Nope. The climb is what builds you up—gives you real strength, that stubborn resolve, the kind of growth that sticks, and, man, the sweetest appreciation when you finally stand at the top and look back.

I keep it real because, as a transgender woman, I live this truth every single day. Transition isn’t some quick Instagram glow-up. It’s long. It can hurt like heck in places you never expected. It’s expensive enough to make your bank account weep. And it flat-out demands mental discipline and willpower that a lot of folks these days just don’t practice anymore.

We’re talking delayed gratification—the kind where you plant the seed, water it for years, and wait for the tree to grow tall instead of demanding fruit tomorrow. Sometimes it germinates quickly. Other times it takes years or decades such as in my case. But the lack of the appearance of growth doesn’t mean your flower isn’t working its hardest.

Sometimes the most beautiful flower blooms at 65 or 75 years old.

Society’s all about microwaves now, right? “I want it fast, hot, and right this second!” We joke about wanting a “microwave transition”—pop a pill, hit a button, boom, done. Transition in three easy payments. Wouldn’t that be hilarious?

I’d be first in line at the drive-thru window yelling, “Extra estrogen, hold the wait!” But nope. Real life doesn’t have a fast-forward button. Rushing it would be like trying to microwave a Thanksgiving turkey—sure, it’s quicker, but you end up with something rubbery and kinda sad. The slow cook in the oven? It’s ready when it’s ready. That’s the one that fills the whole house with that amazing smell and tastes like home.

And here’s the sneaky cool part: that uphill grind is secretly your superpower. Every tough appointment, every dollar saved, every day you choose to keep going even when the mirror feels like a liar—it’s forging you into someone stronger, kinder to yourself, and way more grateful.

You learn to celebrate the tiny wins, like the first time your voice cracks in the right direction or a stranger gets your name right without blinking. Those little moments hit different when you’ve earned them the hard way.

So yeah, the hill is steep sometimes. Your legs burn. You might trip and skin your knees. But you keep putting one foot in front of the other because the view from the top? It’s breathtaking. You’re not just happier—you’re you, fully and finally. And that feeling? Worth every single step.

Keep climbing, beautiful souls.

Remember this key point:
👉The struggle isn’t the enemy; it’s the secret ingredient that makes the happiness taste so dang good when you get there.

You’ve got this. I believe in you. ❤️

Dr. Gwen Patrone

#gwenpatrone #transbeauty #transgenderlivesmatter #ibelieveinyou #LGBTQSupport

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  1. Gwen,
    It’s sometimes hard to know who your real enemy is , deep down what are we really struggling with ? Which is the hardest to deal with , the ones where dysphoria adds a strange dimension to their childhood or the late bloomers who are suddenly hit between the eyes ( like stepping on a garden rake ) with the desire to be female ?
    We can only say if the struggle is worth it when we finally reach our goal , the in between years are like a juggling act the problem is you’re juggling with fire , someone is going to get burnt !

    As for the debate of whether a trans woman is a true woman or not ? Yes we are born with male parts and traits but we are also born with a brain that tells us otherwise , just because we can’t see that part doesn’t make it less real , we can’t cure dysphoria all we can do is learn ways to deal with it . If that means we adopt ourselves as women to calm that dysphoria then we have the right to do so , the World doesn’t give a **** if we choose to end our lives but while we do exist we have the same rights as the next person .
    My life has totally transformed to a life as Teresa , I’m seen and so accepted as such and not as a transwoman , I base that statement on the fact I don’t get misgendered and I’m talking about a very wide net of friends and associates . My basic rule is don’t play games with them , if you deeply desire to transition then stick with that fact , in my case it’s been a tough battle to achieve it .

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