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TIRED OF BEING LONELY? DO THIS…

In sales, when you’re selling something, you’re not really selling the “thing” — you’re selling the payoff.

People will gladly hand you $10 for a $100 bill because the $100 is 10x better. The payoff is obvious. The desire is there.

Relationships are no different. Become more valuable. Let me explain.

The same exact principle I mentioned above applies to relationships — including in the transgender community.

You’re not just offering “a relationship.” You’re offering the experience of being with you. The emotional payoff. The joy, peace, attraction, respect, fun, and connection someone gets by choosing you.

If you’re struggling with LONELINESS and feel like “no one wants me,” it’s time for an honest look in the mirror:

What payoff are you currently offering?
Are you showing up as a $10 bill… or as a $100 bill?

The harsh but liberating truth: Most people will only invest in you (time, energy, commitment) if they see you as clearly worth it — if the benefit feels like a no-brainer decision for them.

The other issue is most have an over inflated view of their true value in the relationship marketplace. They think they’re a 10 ($100 bill), when, the world sees them as a ______ (insert number).

My analogy of money is to drive home a point. Thus it isn’t about MONEY. It’s about VALUE.

Ask yourself honestly…
• How do I make someone feel?
• What energy do I bring into a room?
• Am I working on my mental health, fitness, style, communication, boundaries, and emotional maturity?
• Am I becoming someone others are excited to be around?

The transgender community has far too many lonely people who blame the world instead of upgrading their own offer.

👉The dating market doesn’t care about fairness — it cares about perceived payoff.

If you want better results, make yourself 10x more attractive (inside and out). Become the kind of person where the right partner thinks: “I’d be crazy not to choose them.”

Level up your look.
Level up your mindset.
Level up your life.

When your personal value rises, the quality of people willing to “pay” (with their attention, affection, and commitment) rises with it.
You don’t find love by demanding acceptance.
You attract it by becoming undeniable.

The equation is simple:
Become the $100 bill.

Who’s ready to stop settling for loneliness and start becoming the payoff?

Drop a 🔥 if this hit hard.

Dr. Gwen Patrone
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“A Woman… According to Me”

I’ve spent 60+ years living as a man.

Not pretending. Not hiding. Not confused.

That man built a life. He led Marines as a Sergeant. He built companies as a CEO. He made decisions, took hits, stood his ground. He did his job—and he did it well.

And somewhere in the background… she existed.

Not loud. Not demanding. Just a quiet presence. A whisper. A “tickle,” like a thought that taps you on the shoulder and disappears before you can turn around. I didn’t misunderstand it back then. Like the times, as a young teen, I’d look at an attractive girl and want to DO her but then also think, “I wonder what it’s like to BE her?”. I just didn’t understand it at all.

Looking back now, I see it differently.

I wasn’t one thing with an interruption.

I was always two things in motion.

A kind of yin and yang—discipline and softness, logic and intuition, structure and style—moving together whether I acknowledged it or not.

For most of my life, the masculine side led. And it served me well.

But the feminine side?

She was patient.

She was growing roots. In order to bloom you need roots.

And then… October 31st, 2019.

A Halloween party in Atlantic City. Hundreds of people. I dressed as a woman in black. The nervousness was there initially but changed to exhilaration almost immediately. WTF?

A costume. Just a moment, I thought.

It wasn’t.

It was ignition.

What had been quiet became undeniable. What had been a whisper became a voice I couldn’t turn down. Ignore it? I tried. But this wasn’t something that fades—it expanded.

Call it dysphoria, call it anxiety, call it truth knocking louder each day… whatever the label, the experience was the same:

She wasn’t visiting anymore.

She was arriving.

Over the next few years, I stopped resisting and started allowing. Bit by bit, I let her breathe, move, exist. And in doing that, I didn’t lose myself—

I met more of myself.

Today, I live as Gwen.

And here’s where my view may differ from some, both inside and outside the transgender community:

I don’t think of myself as a woman.

Not in the traditional biological sense.

I love women. I admire them. I respect them too deeply to casually place myself in that category as if the journey, biology, and lived experience are identical—because they’re not.

And I’m okay saying that.

At the same time, I’ve done everything in my power to align my outer world with how I feel inside. I’ve softened edges, reshaped presentation, blurred lines that once felt rigid.

But I’m also a realist.

There are lines biology draws that I can approach… but not fully cross.

So where does that leave me?

Somewhere in between but much more than limbo.

Not half of anything—fully both.

A blend. A fusion. A balance.

Masculine and feminine not at war, but in rhythm.

If I had to put a word to it, I’d say I’m a hybrid. A yin/yang in motion. Maybe even something a little mythical—a unicorn of sorts. Not because I’m rare or special, but because language doesn’t quite have a clean box for this experience.

And that’s okay too.

Socially, I prefer she/her. It feels right. It aligns. But if someone says “sir”? It doesn’t shatter me. I understand the world I live in.

This isn’t about demanding agreement. I’m confident in who I am.

It’s about expressing truth.

My truth.

You don’t have to see it the way I do.

You don’t have to define “woman” the way I do.

You don’t have to fully understand it to respect that this is where I’ve landed after a lifetime of living, leading, questioning, and evolving.

This is me… doing me.

Not replacing who I was.

Expanding into who I’ve always been.

Dr. Gwen Patrone

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I’M A REAL WOMAN!

*Taking Femininity for Granted

Listen, I’m not here to play “who’s the real woman” Olympics or rewrite basic biology. I know exactly what I am: a guy who spent so very long staring in the mirror, knowing something was off, and finally decided the fix was going to be expensive, painful, and totally worth it. I’d love to be a real woman but alas, that ship has sailed and biology didn’t work out for me. So, I work with what I’m dealt and blur the line as best I can.

🦄I’m proud to be a hybrid unicorn.🦄

Six figures in surgeries (all out of my own pocket), hormones that turned my body into a science experiment, a wardrobe that ate my savings like it was Thanksgiving dinner, and a lifetime of quiet (sometimes unknown) longing before I ever went full-time. And yeah—I cherish every damn second of it.

Take the first time I went out fully dressed after years of private cross-dressing. I spent four hours getting ready—shaving, tucking, contouring, wrestling with that one bra that always fights back, trying to stretch into an S breastplate—and stepped out the door of my apartment 20+ floors in the sky feeling like I was wearing armor made of joy. Oh, I was scared shitless. I even walked down flights of stairs down one, then two floors in the hopes that if I took the elevator, a neighbor wouldn’t be standing there wondering “what the F is that”?

But it was all worth it and I eventually domesticated my fear so I was impervious to “what others think”!

Every breeze on my legs, every click of those (admittedly murderous) heels on pavement… it wasn’t casual. It was electric. Cross-dressers know this feeling intimately: those limited windows of time where you get to be her are so precious you practically hoard the memories. You don’t waste a single minute checking your phone. You’re present.

Flash forward to post-transition life. I still remember waking up in the recovery bed after one of the bigger surgeries, groggy, sore as hell, thinking, “Oh shit, I’m gonna barf!!! Then, This is the dumbest and best decision I’ve ever made.”

The nurse said, “trust the doctor, he’s one of the best. Girls fly in from all over the world to see him. Then she asked how I was feeling and I just started laughing through the pain because for the first time the reflection in the little mirror they handed me didn’t feel like a costume.

It felt like me. That kind of earned relief? You don’t take it for granted. You notice everything—the way clothes now fit differently, the subtle confidence that creeps in when you’re no longer fighting your own silhouette. The added weight on my chest! Oh my. I didn’t care about the pain, I was out the same night!!! You go girl is all I could think!!!

Hormones? Let me tell you, the mood swings and random crying at cat videos are real. But so is the genuine delight when a dress that used to just “look okay” suddenly flows the way it was supposed to. That bikini? I don’t remember it fitting like that. Dang girl. Not bad!!

I’ve had moments where I catch myself in a store window and think, “Damn… I fought for this version of me.” Meanwhile, I watch some cis women sprint through their routines—ponytail, jeans, out the door—and yeah, sometimes I wonder if the everyday ease makes parts of it feel ordinary.

To the biological women out there, I’m not claiming your biology or your lived experience. I’m saying this: when you’ve paid that steep a price—physical, financial, emotional—you tend to appreciate the view from the mountain a little more intensely than the people born at the summit. Not better. Not worse. Just hungrier for it.

To the biological men reading this: some of you get the sheer audacity of the journey and respect it. To those rare few… thank you.

To the biological women: you don’t have to agree with my path to see that gratitude isn’t competition. And to anyone trying to understand the mindset without the ideological screaming match—this is part of where a lot of us are coming from. Deep, stubborn appreciation for something we refuse to treat as background noise.

🦄Femininity, in all its forms, is a hell of a thing.

Some of us just had to work overtime (and pay overtime) to earn our seat at the table. And damn if it doesn’t taste sweeter for it.

What about you?

Ever valued something more precisely because it wasn’t handed to you?

Drop your thoughts—kindly, please. I’m too old for the rage-bait circus.

Dr. Gwen Patrone

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