Ever think about how planets warp space and pull stuff toward them? Einstein says that’s gravity. Well, here’s a wild thought: your mind kind of does the same thing with your reality. Youre being kinky to the world around you.
If you’re always stuck on negativity, it’s like you’re making your own personal black hole for bad vibes—sucking in more drama, stress, and those energy vampires you really don’t need.
Flip it around though, and fill your head with self-love, confidence, and hope, and it’s wild how suddenly you attract better people, kinder experiences, and maybe even the courage to try that new hobby (or just rock a new look).
As someone who’s transgender, this “mental gravity” is seriously powerful. Trust me—how I think about myself shapes my days way more than what anyone else says. When I focus on accepting and celebrating who I am, instead of worrying about other people’s expectations, I find friends who really get me, communities that welcome me, and moments that lift me up. It’s not magic, but it might as well be.
Others have called it The Law of Attraction.
So, if your thoughts really do shape your universe, why not make it a galaxy you actually want to live in? What you focus on has a way of finding you. Put some good stuff out there—and watch what comes orbiting back.
Dr. Gwen Patrone
4 Responses
Gwen,
Your posts always make me think deeply about us a humans and in particular us as transgender people . I know much of your writing makes sense but our brains are so complex ,( although when you see some people’s behaviour you do wonder !!!) I’m sure most of us deal with mental battles , one part of our brain tries to convince another part to think positively and do the right thing .
I know we debate the point of having two sides , a male and female some say not so and others think it’s the only true solution . I was told by my gender counsellor when she analysed my long term dreams that I had two sides and the female side was the more dominant , she was going to take over one day . She gives me most of my good vibes but the male in me is more negative , he considers what could go wrong rather than what could go right , is it good to have a voice of caution or does he live in fear and negativety ? Does this answer your question of being ” KINKY” are we really governed by different parts of the universe ?
I guess the biggest problem I live with is the guy is a risk taker and so is Teresa , my father always said , ” there’s no such word as can’t ! ” Umh ! I’m still here at 74 but it could be pure luck !
The way you connected mindset to how we experience the world felt real, not just another “think positive” cliché. Especially in a trans context, it’s way too easy to internalize negativity without even realizing it — and yeah, it absolutely shapes how people treat us and how we treat ourselves. I’ve seen it in my own life: when I stop bracing for rejection, I tend to get less of it. It’s not magic, like you said, but it’s definitely powerful.
I agree with you Gwen.
Positive thinking about ourselves is imperative. I just spent the last few months thinking negatively. It was not a good time. But close friends have helped me turn things around.
Jocelyn
I agree 100% about how important confidence is in living a trans life Gwen.
I have found that projecting a sense of confidence usually makes it easier for people to interact with me. They sense the confidence and are, in turn, more confident in dealing me.