During my walk today I saw a spider that was building its web and I thought it was so beautiful the way it systematically went around and around to make the web perfectly.
However, I thought deeper and I found it fascinating regarding how each spider knows how to build its web. Spiders don’t teach one another. It’s called instinct or innate behavior.
Then I thought, what instincts are we born with and what do we need to learn? Spiders, indeed, are born with the instinct to build webs, a skill essential for their survival, and they don’t need to be taught how to do it. This is a clear example of an innate behavior, which is hardwired into an organism’s biology.
Humans, on the other hand, are a bit more complex. We are born with certain instincts, but much of what we know and do is learned through experience and education.
For instance, a newborn baby has reflexes and instincts like sucking, which are crucial for feeding and survival. However, most of our skills, such as language, social interaction, and complex problem-solving, are acquired.
SO WHEN DOES IT START?
Our learning starts from the moment we are born. We observe, imitate, and are taught by others around us. This is where the concept of nature (what we are born with) versus nurture (what we learn from our environment) comes into play. While our genetic makeup provides a blueprint, our experiences and environment shape us significantly.
THE COURAGE TO UNLEARN THAT WHICH NO LONGER SERVES US
As we grow, we also learn behaviors and norms that are specific to our culture or social group. These learned behaviors can sometimes be limiting or negative. The process of unlearning involves recognizing these behaviors and actively working to change them. This could be as simple as changing a daily habit or as complex as altering deeply ingrained beliefs.
Evaluating these learned behaviors and asking, “Does this belief or habit still serve me?”, and having the courage to eliminate even long-cherished beliefs is difficult, sometimes they even seem insurmountable.
Relearning, then, is about adopting new, more positive or useful behaviors and thought patterns. This is not always easy, as it often requires stepping out of our comfort zones and challenging our preconceptions.
However, it’s a powerful way to grow and evolve as individuals.
WE’RE BORN WITH THE GIFT OF FREE WILL!
Thus, we may not be born with the knowledge to build intricate webs like spiders, humans have a remarkable capacity to learn, unlearn, and relearn throughout our lives. We can choose at any time to change our lives and go in an entirely different direction, something that we, as humans, are blessed to have bestowed on us.
As Transgender individuals, we know this all to well. We’ve reevaluated our lives, and our experiences, and decided that where we were going no longer serves us. We then made the change.
CHOOSE WISELY WHAT YOU BELIEVE AS YOUR TRUTH.
IT’S WITHIN YOUR PERSONAL POWER TO CHANGE.
This adaptability is perhaps one of our most incredible instincts.