Can I get an AMEN sisters!😇
But on a more serious note. Over 40 years ago, I started getting the URGE. I’m sure you know the URGE. It’s to dress femme and feel what it’s like to be pretty, attractive and alluring even though it was alone in my room.
At 16 years old, seeing an attractive girl and being both turned on sexually and at the same time being confused because I also wanted to “be” her was perplexing to say the least.
At that time, being in a religious family, it was obviously the wrong feeling to have. Whatever “obviously” means.
Those pantyhose look and feel so silky.💅 I REALLY want to put them on. One feeling said, “DO IT”, while the other said, “What the hell are you thinking?”.
I put them on and wore jeans over them. OMG they feel incredible. The problem was that I didn’t see the hole in the knee. Why may you ask would that be a problem?
DUH. PEOPLE CAN SEE THROUGH THE HOLE.
I was sitting on the couch with my twin sister and she noticed it. I saw her looking at it. She didn’t say anything. She didn’t need to speak, he eyes said it all. WTF? Shock? OMG?
I casually got up as if I hadn’t noticed and I was so embarrassed that I never did it again. I had a major guilt trip. I even went so far as to join the USMC. Talk about over compensation. Religious upbringings are very powerful and difficult to overcome.
After 40 years, the feelings crept back like a flower finding a crack in the pavement and pushing its way out. The flower’s job it to grow and be beautiful. Relentless.
MEN ARE LIKE VEGETABLES.
WOMEN ARE LIKE FLOWERS.
That’s all the flower needed. A crack to wiggle through to be known. To be seen. To express itself. Energy always seeks to express itself. Time isn’t important. For me it was four decades.
Feelings and curiosities started to return. I wonder what it would feel like to __________ ?
Another few years passed and with each experience, the flower would bloom some more. The female energy was getting stronger.
Inside of us is a constant battle for territory. We are all made up of energy (spirit). The yin/yang or male/female spirits want to stake their claim. Which one will win you may be asking?
WHICHEVER YOU FEED.
We all have both yin and yang. Each person has a different proportion of male and female energy. The one you feed more will dominate.
A year ago, I started to write my next book and I was researching this energy dance we all have going on inside of us.
I wondered what it would be like (there’s that phrase again), to “tap into” the female energy to become a better speaker, father, writer, entrepreneur, whatever. Instead of ignoring the energy, why not use it to get better. What a concept.
Little did I realize, going down the rabbit hole was exactly what my flower wanted! Gwen knew that once I smelled her nector, there was no going back.
Gwen was BORN AGAIN!
You see, desire or de-sire from the Latin root means to give birth. My de-sire had always been there in a self-imposed slumber under the the pavement. It was just waiting for the right moment to feed my flower.
De-sire is like Miracle Grow plant food. The more we use, the faster our thoughts become reality.
Deep thoughts for a beautiful weekend. I hope my story helps some of you to bloom too.
Be Strong. 💪
Dr. Gwen Patrone