The litany of events and outings continued. When I recently went to Erie, I met Chynna. She lives near me and has a tremendously supportive wife. We clicked and agreed to get together back home. The difference between the two of us, I go out all the time, anywhere, with little to no trepidation. She is a bit of a novice at navigating outside her door. She buried Chynna deep when she met her wife and got married. Did so like most of us, assuming that would be a deal killer and/or that she was over it. Well, happily in this circumstance, after quite a while (exactly like me) she finally revealed herself to complete acceptance. We both well know (hence our initial and long term hesitation) we are fortunate.
December 13, 2024, I agreed despite my significant distain of starting my evening so late (7:30 is damn near bed time for me) to meet for dinner. Knowing I had no interest in burning the midnight oil, I stretched the day a bit up-front. I decided upon a perfectly grown woman outfit, wearing my favorite turtleneck with a skirt and cute boots. Simple, every day outfits are (to those learning) the most blendable.
Chy and I sat at the bar of a very crowded Italian restaurant and simply chatted and had a delightful evening. No one’s head spun around on its axis, no one paid us any mind whatsoever. After a few hours, she was not ready to go home, so I changed my mind and we went to a local bar/nightclub. I sipped a few diet Cokes and hung out for another hour or so. The whole evening was quite lovely, although I woke up as usual, early the following morning.
December 14, 2024 I volunteered for the North Coast Men’s Chorus Holiday concert. Always a treat, this day was not different. Nothing of significant note, just tremendous love and acceptance. I had a bit of a headache (from the late night before?), so I was a somewhat subdued but walked around collecting hugs and compliments. Of course, this crowd (LGBT-centric) would of course, be accepting to me, but that’s all part of “being smart”, going to comfortable places. Prior to punching in for the evening, I hit the Rock Hall to do some Christmas shopping (the place was packed, there was a concert there and the Chiefs were in town, so Chiefs’ gear was everywhere) and stopped for dinner. Uneventful, which is always good.
Oh yeah, I did okay outfit-wise.
Post script: I recently attended the Plexus Winter Soiree, They posted some candid photos on the Facebook and this one of me was posted there. I adore this picture and I adore this person, my great friend Elaine. It fills me with joy to be THAT woman, in THIS picture. It also is nice to see someone genuinely happy to see me…
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Thanks for sharing your experiences with us. You have really good advice and tips . I’m still longing for that first outing, so that I have experiences to share too! All your outfits looked amazing.
Kandi,
I loved the B/W skirt and the trurtle neck sweater , only one problem with them is they take makeup off when slipping them on , that’s why I prefer cowl necked sweaters and dresses for the cooler months . I totally agree be smart ( brainwise ) with your outfits , the majority of my time is spent dressed for everyday , you know when you’ve got it right , people are glad to see you and not wanting to leg it !
So good to read you took Chynna under your wing , we’ve all been there and needed that support , it’s just part of what we are , looking for a reaction and not getting it is a wonderful compliment . I’m now in a very odd situation as I hate the looks I get on the rare occasions I have to appear in male mode , I feel very uncomfortable , why are people giving me a second glance ?? I’m not sure what the reverse of MIAD is !