
By Tina Davis
I woke up Sunday, April 27, 2025, to a cold and wet day. But I was determined to go back to the welcoming church I had visited in March, and to wear the floral Calvin Klein dress as my Easter outfit. I had decided that I needed a dresser pair of white heeled sandals, so I used a discount code from DSW to order a pair that I picked up on my way home from my mother’s on Saturday.
I washed up and shaved, checking for any missed spots on my arms and chest, before closely shaving my face. I did put my fake lashes on with my makeup and got dressed. I didn’t put on any hose, as I wanted to show my pale pink toenails in my sandals. Once I was ready, I took several pictures and was happy with the look.
I drove to the church and parked closer to the entrance as it was lightly raining. I used my multicolor umbrella and entered the back door of the church. I found my way into the sanctuary and sat in a pew after taking off my coat and putting my umbrella under the pew in front of me. It was nice to sit quietly for a few moments, and I greeted other people who sat near me. As the time of the service neared, I saw the senior pastor, Sarah, make her way up the aisle and specifically welcome me back.
I did not see the associate pastor, Stacy, but the young female pastoral resident, Megan, was preaching that morning. Her sermon about Thomas (the doubting apostle) tied in with the season of resurrection, which meant a lot to me, as I have been on an emotional roller-coaster since the passing of my father.


When the service ended, I made my way to the back of the sanctuary, where Sarah was waiting. We hugged and had a short conversation about how I found the church and the love and support I received. I told her I wanted to come back again, but couldn’t say when, as my next opportunity to get out was not apparent. I said I would stay for the coffee time but needed a restroom visit first, and she directed me to one by the kitchen, through the room where the gathering was happening.
I needed to adjust my shapewear and hip pads, as the right one had slid off-center. After taking care of business, I returned to the room and poured myself a cup of water. There were many snacks available, and I chatted with a few people about the variety before choosing a small pastry. I made my way over to Megan and got another hug from her as she complimented my dress. An older woman joined us and said she hadn’t worn a skirt since she retired, and I just smiled.
There was a congregational meeting in the chapel of the church, which I did not wish to attend, so I finished my snack, took the picture in front of the flag mural, and said my farewells to Sarah and Megan. I drove home and took off the dress, as I had a couple of household chores to do. I put on a pair of capri jeans and my light blue sneakers to clean the kitchen floor, deciding to have some fun once I was done.


I wanted to go out again, so I changed into this fuchsia top and black skirt, with tights and heeled booties. I went to a restaurant for a drink and an appetizer – I love my martinis! I did chat with a couple of women a few seats down, we talked about the hockey playoffs that were on the bar TVs. I did end up talking to my wife while sitting in the car in the parking lot before driving home.


Monday, April 28, was the last day of my long weekend, and I had to clean up all of my things and re-pack my duffel bags. But it was such a beautiful day, I had to get out once more. I put on the new black denim skirt, my leopard print top, and flat gladiator sandals. My wife has this very cute bag with a cat face on it, so I borrowed it for the couple of errands I needed to do. I also boldly went out in the back yard to take a picture with our gorgeous tulips in full bloom.


I washed several things before packing the last items in my bags and hauling them back up to the dormer space. This had been a full time across the 5 days, not all of it spent dressed, but a welcome respite from the usual drab look. While it may be several months before I can get out again, I can look back on this time and relive the wonderful moments of acceptance and love.
Hugs, Tina
12 Responses
Tina, this was such a beautiful post. I used to go to church like this when I was younger, but it’s been years now. And the thought of going en femme honestly feels so far out of reach for me right now.
Reading your story — the dress, the people, the quiet moments of being seen and welcomed — it really touched me. It reminded me what’s possible.
Thank you for sharing it so openly. 💜
Thank you Michelle, it hasn’t been easy to find this sort of love and acceptance. I was very fortunate to choose to attend this church in March. If it were possible, I would dress and go every week! And I’m not that young either, just determined to get out and be happy while dressed. ❤️
Thank you Tina for telling your story. You look beautiful in all your pics. It’s hard sometimes to express to others how wonderful many of us feel when we are able to be out as our true selves.
Terri, I completely agree. Thank you for your understanding and support!
Hi Tina,
Thank you for the post, I really enjoyed reading all you were able to do. It’s no wonder that beautiful smile never left your face. All your pics are amazing and that gorgeous dress looks absolute beautiful in your. It’s darn near as pretty as you ❤️🥰
Trish, that is the most beautiful thing anyone has said to me in a long time. I’m sending you the biggest hug all the way from Boston to western Canada!
Tina,
Back in my school days ( all boys school ) we had to attend morning chapel every morning before class started , we were obliged to sing every hymn so eventually I began to recognise and enjoy them . So now when I attend religious events I know the words to most hymns but I have to hold back because I can’t sing with a female voice which is frustrating . I tried it once and got some very odd looks , a blond lady in full make up nicely dress with a low booming male voice !!
It was good to read and see you last outing and I do agree with Trish your blue dress is very pretty .
I also had to smile at your quick change to do a few domestic chores . It reminded me of just a few days ago when I joined my female friends for a charity coffee morning , I’d just arrived home when my phone rang , it was an old male friend who was stuck with an electrical problem in his home . I did a quick change , grabbed my tool box and a test meter and went to investigate his problem . The fault was simple enough as he’d missed a hidden earth trip circuit breaker ( thank goodness as I was in full make up and decent wig ) which meant no scrambling through cobwebs in his loft space ! He’s OK with me as Teresa but has never given me a hug before !!
Teresa, I can sing in a falsetto tone without sounding strange, so I do sing the hymns quietly. I just drop off if the notes are too low.
Thank you for the compliment on my dress, Calvin Klein dresses are wonderful, fit perfectly, and show up often in the thrift shops at low prices.
TINA
HAPPY TO SEE RADIATE JOY AND HAPPINESS AS YOUR GIRL SELF.. A VERY PLEASANT WOMANLY SET OF IMAGES.
KEEP SMILING. IT MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE.
Thank you Marie, I can’t help but smile when I am dressed!
Tina, that was a lovely story. It is so nice to be who you truly are. You are gorgeous in all of your pictures. I love the dress you wore to church. Stories such as yours always makes me feel so good about who I am and I will never let anything stop me from expressing my feminine side.
Amen sister! 😃