Oasis. Just a spectacular band. Also, one of many bands formed and headed by brothers who came to despise each other. In this case, Liam and Noah Gallagher. They did not speak for 15 years. The Fogerty brothers (Credence Clear Water Revival), The Everly Brothers, the Davies (Kinks), two of the brothers Gibb (Bee Gees), Allman Brothers, the Robinsons from The Black Crowes and a few more. The title of this post (which has zero to do with the day we’ll discuss) is also the name of a terrific documentary of the 2025 Oasis tour, where the brothers reunited. I loved it! Nothing better for me than a great rock documentary.

So I start a revolution from my bed
‘Cause you said the brains I had went to my head
Step outside, summertime’s in bloom
Stand up beside the fireplace
Take that look from off your face
You ain’t ever gonna burn my heart out

And so, Sally can wait
She knows it’s too late as we’re walking on by
Her soul slides away
But don’t look back in anger, I heard you say

Take me to the place where you go
Where nobody knows if it’s night or day
Please don’t put your life in the hands
Of a rock ‘n’ roll band
Who’ll throw it all away

As is often the case here, the musical discussion has nothing to do with this day.

October 17, 2026 I volunteered, as I have for well over a decade, for The North Coast Men’s Chorus’ annual murder mystery fundraiser. This event is always so much fun for me! There is no real story here other than the love and acceptance I feel there every single time. I got great feedback on my dress, which filled me with pride. It was a Greek themed mystery, which gave gay men the license to wear togas, so I went fairly unnoticed in that crowd! I would normally stay for the entire event, but scooted after my two-hour shift, for two reasons. To watch our Guardians play (unfortunately they lost this one) and also, I was basically running on fumes and that balky left knee. I had yet another event to work the following day…

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Always Good to Get Out

Another lovely solo flight!

I was invited to the soft opening of a spectacular new event space in Cleveland’s Tremont neighborhood, The Elliot. So on July 26, 2022, I gathered my posse (okay I flew solo as per usual) and off we went.

I had plenty of time on this day, so I took my time with my makeup and getting dressed and I headed out the door a few hours before I needed to. So, to kill some time, I went to a local mall and walked around.

This lead me to strongly consider adding a new nightie to my collection (I have now basically gone to wearing either a nightie or one of Kandi’s t-shirts to bed every night). Dillard’s was having the final days of its semi-annual clearance sale. This was the one that caught me eye.

I just could not pull the trigger. Not because of the nightie or the fit, but I stuck to my budget rules, it was out of my price range.

It’s always a treat, is always joyful, when I wear MY women’s clothing. I still get chills to think I own a drawer full of lingerie, a closet full of dresses, I have my own heels, purses, makeup, etc. I never take this gift for granted and I continue to evolve. But when I wear something like this that is so ultra-feminine, so sexy yet classy, I melt. That photo to the left is a vision of myself that I am unbelievably proud of. She is me and I am her.

In my recent Kandi is Joy post, I got a little brush back that Kandi is not her own separate being. Only I know how I feel, of course, but allow me to make one point. Kandi is indeed me, a very big part of me. But understand, I am not of her. I leave all the baggage and the world’s troubles behind when this girl gets dressed. So maybe I am Sybil, maybe not. Maybe this is how I feel today, maybe not tomorrow. Life keeps churning on and its various twists and turns always take us to different places.

Recently I attended to a networking function for live events and as a result, was invited to The Elliot opening. I sorta knew some folks, but mostly knew no one. But that didn’t stop me from enjoying myself, taking some photos (it’s what we do!) and chatting with some folks. They had a great taco bar and two bars serving complimentary cocktails. The DJ played the main hall with a little crooner-style trio playing downstairs.

A lovely evening, all in all!

Don’t look back in anger, look forward with hope, with love.