In the profound depths of despair, when the world seems to collapse inward and the thought of suicide looms as the only escape, it is crucial to remember a fundamental truth about the universe: the law of polarity.
This principle asserts that for every extreme, an opposite must exist—light to dark, up to down, good to bad. For those in the transgender community, who often face disproportionate levels of discrimination, misunderstanding, and violence, the weight of such experiences can feel unbearable, pushing individuals to the brink.
Yet, if the pain is so immense, so all-consuming, then by the very nature of existence, an equally profound opposite—of joy, acceptance, and belonging—must also be within reach.
As you read this, my aim is to illuminate this inherent balance, urging those contemplating suicide to recognize the potential for an opposite reality and to embark on the vital journey of discovering it.
👉The law of polarity is not merely a philosophical concept; it is an observable truth woven into the fabric of reality.
Just as a magnet has two poles, or a day is defined by the presence of night, every experience, every emotion, every state of being inherently contains its antithesis.
If one experiences profound sadness, the capacity for profound joy exists. If one feels utterly lost, the potential for finding one’s true path is equally present.
The universe, in its intricate design, demands this balance. It cannot sustain an extreme without the counterbalancing force of its opposite. Therefore, if your current reality feels so overwhelmingly negative that it suggests an end, this very intensity is a testament to the equally powerful, positive opposite that awaits your discovery.
For members of the transgender community, the journey can be particularly fraught with challenges. The struggle for identity, the pain of dysphoria, the societal pressures, and the often-hostile environments can create an overwhelming sense of isolation, loneliness and hopelessness.
These are extreme negative poles of human experience. However, according to the law of polarity, the very existence of such intense suffering implies the existence of equally intense joy, affirmation, and self-actualization.
If there is profound rejection, there must be profound acceptance. If there is deep dysphoria, there is the potential for profound euphoria and alignment with one’s true self. Your current pain, while valid and immense, is not the *only* reality. It is one pole, and your inherent worth and potential for a fulfilling life represent the other.
But Gwen, what can I do about it?
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Your “job,” then, is not to deny the pain, but to actively seek out and cultivate its opposite.
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This is a courageous act of self-preservation and self-discovery. It involves reaching out for support—to affirming friends, family, mental health professionals, or LGBTQ+ community resources. It means exploring gender-affirming care, finding spaces where your identity is celebrated, and allowing yourself to envision a future where you are not just surviving, but thriving.
The path to finding this opposite may be challenging, requiring resilience and patience, but it is a path that leads away from despair and towards a life rich with meaning, connection, and authentic self-expression.
Your life holds immense value, and the universe, through the law of polarity, assures you that the opposite of your current struggle is not only possible but waiting to be found.
Embrace the journey, for your true self, and a life of profound joy, are worth fighting for.
If you know of anyone you feel may be in this deep, dark place, please share this with them.
Dr. Gwen Patrone
