I’m writing this from a sunny cruise to Mexico, where the ocean breeze and endless horizons have me reflecting on connection in the most unexpected places – like hot tub chats with folks from all walks of life.
As someone who’s transgender, proudly embracing my journey from male to female with all the curves, strength, and beauty that come with it, I often end up sharing my story. People are curious; they want to understand where I’m coming from, and it’s led to some eye-opening moments.
Just yesterday, a guy in his 60s turned to me and said, “You know, this is the first time I’ve ever met someone like you, let alone heard their point of view.” That word “heard” stuck with me – it’s the whole point.
We often hear through our own biases, but do we truly listen with compassion and an open heart to understand? I’ve had so many of these conversations here, with a spectrum of people, and even when we don’t end up agreeing, something shifts. A bridge gets built, one built on respect and shared humanity.
If I’m being honest, and I always am, the most hate I’ve received isn’t from those who aren’t transgender, but from my own people who don’t see eye-to-eye with any mumber of topics.
This leads me further in my post…
I’ve been thinking a lot about how divided we can feel in this world, especially around who we are and how we see life.
Being trans isn’t the sum of me; it’s just one vibrant thread in the tapestry of my self. I’m a force—a warrior, a dreamer, a lover, a neighbor ~ who defies labels and embraces every facet of my essence.
On one side, there are those like me who hold more traditional values, cherishing things like personal responsibility, family roots, and the freedom to live authentically without labels defining everything.
On the other, there are those passionate about progress, equality, and challenging norms to make space for everyone, no matter their story.
But here’s what I’ve learned: We’re all just humans trying to navigate a complicated world. The conservative-leaning among us might value stability and timeless principles because they’ve seen how they provide a foundation in tough times – it’s about protecting what works and honoring hard-earned wisdom.
Meanwhile, those pushing for change often come from a place of deep care, wanting to lift up voices that have been silenced and create a kinder society for the next generation. Both sides are rooted in love, fear of loss, and a desire for a better tomorrow, even if it shows up differently.
I get it – it’s easy to react with frustration when someone doesn’t see eye-to-eye. But what if we paused and asked, “What’s your story? What shaped your heart on this?” Instead of assuming the worst, we could respond with curiosity: “I hear you value tradition because it gave you security – tell me more.” Or, “Your passion for change comes from wanting fairness for all – how can we find ways that honor that without erasing what’s good?”
Being trans and conservative puts me in a unique spot, feeling like a bridge between worlds. It’s taught me that understanding doesn’t mean agreeing, but it does mean respecting the humanity in each other.
Let’s try mending instead of dividing – share a kind word, listen without judgment, and remember we’re all in this together.
What’s one thing you’ve learned from someone different from you? I’d love to hear.
With love and hope,
Dr. Gwen Patrone💋
