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Transcending Social Networks

This just makes me so happy!

By Cristy Garcia

Editor’s note: It is a fairly long read but hopefully worth the time.

Actual editors note: Almost 23,000 views to date! Written earlier in 2022.

It used to be that, in my generation, we made friends first at our neighborhood, then at school/college and finally at work, or by pursuing common interests like sports, hobbies or artistic activities, to name a few. Then the Internet appeared and soon after, social networks. We were then able to connect with our current friends at a level in which physical distance was no longer an issue. We were reminded of birthdays and were able to witness, virtually, anything that our friends wanted to share. They also provided the means to find people who shared a common interest, all over the world.

For those of us who had a very important yet extremely private and “unaccepted” interest, the Internet opened a new world of information and realization. We were no longer alone and the fact that we could share something so private with someone who was continents apart, would create a special bond that, in my case and many of you, was stronger than the one we had with lifelong friends.

The next step was to try to meet these dear online friends in person and make the virtual bond something real and tangible. I will not expand on this as I wrote extensively about my experiences at the first conferences that I attended. However, after not going to a large conference for over 7 years, my attending Keystone in 2022, helped me realize, again, the importance and relevance of giving that online friend a real hug. Yes, I continued to meet with close friends, from previous events, every year, but in small groups in which almost everyone knows everyone from before. Being able to talk to and hug friends you know online but have never met in person is something that I had missed for some time and found gratifying in Harrisburg, last month.

There are no emojis that can effectively express the satisfaction of a real hug, a smile, or a laugh from a friend! Nothing beats laughing together and seeing friends’ expressions as they smile or tell a joke or an anecdote. An emoji is generic, you see it and then forget it, but personal interactions are indelible memories that will last a lifetime!

If you ever have a chance to attend any TG conference, I encourage you to do all you can to be there and experience what I am trying to convey here. I am sure that if you never attend any other again, you will never forget it, and if you have the chance to attend again, you will do it for as long as you can.

You may have noticed that after Keystone I had focused on posting photos where I am with friends and not of myself, because that is what mattered the most to me. Yes, I had the opportunity to participate in a couple of exciting adventures and took a lot of photos of Cristy by herself, but those photos, although I will eventually share them, are mostly relevant at a personal level. On the other hand, photos with friends are reminders of that bond that becomes stronger with each face-to-face encounter with someone you don’t see often but feel closer to your heart and soul than most of your longtime friends from the “normal” life.

People often ask me how I manage to dress only for that one time a year and then put Cristy in hibernation. Well, the memories I gather through that week along with a continued online interaction, mostly with the friends I have met in person, make it easy to deal with the long wait.

About the photo: It was taken by the queen of selfies, Miss Jamie Kendall. I am not going to identify who is featured in it to protect Jamie’s, Christina’s, Nora’s, Sophia’s and my own privacy. 😛

The Keystone Logo is used without express written consent of the Organization but I hope they understand 🙂

Actual editor’s interjection: I treasure these photos and this friendship! In what other circle of life can I be friends with an amazing person from Guatemala?

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16 Responses

  1. Cristy,
    I assume you are talking about the disruption caused by Covid ? So many things changed during that period , I agree there is no sustitute for personal contact . Computers can only partly convey true feelings , I tried Zoom meetings but gave up on them . Finally when we could pick up the threads after Covid I found really good friends had moved on , I’m talking now in general terms about my painting group and the like . As for contacting trans friends , I found a rift had formed , my life had moved on when going fulltime , many didn’t relate to me anymore . I was talking this point over with a TS friend and we concluded that attending trans meetings are like going to college , we do the course and pass an exam and then move on to a new life .

    1. Teresa,
      I was not talking about Covid specifically, but it can apply to the changes we experienced during the lockdowns. I understand that your case as a transitioned woman is very different from a very part-time girl like myself. However, following your “college” analogy, it can be rewarding to go back after graduating and help those who are still studying either by giving lectures or teaching. At TG conferences you find all sorts of people with different needs and goals and fully transitioned girls help those who are starting the process or thinking about it by sharing their experiences and knowledge.

      The way I see it is more like a class reunion in which we catch up with those we have met along the way, regardless of our path and ultimate goal.

      1. Cristy,
        I very much thought I could help those still to graduate but found many had no interest . Maybe most accepted they would never graduate , many years ago I never would expected to either .
        I concede some just enjoy the opportuntiy to dress up and have fun with others , oddly it became a club I was excluded from .

  2. Cristy,
    I loved your letter. I related to it in many ways. I have attended Keystone 7 or 8 years. It is a great event. I have attended other events over the years, I think Keystone is the best. You hit the nail on the head when you said meeting others like yourself in person is a wonderful experience. I first met another person just like me in 1979 or 80. It changed my life. Thank you for posting your story. I know you have helped someone. See you at Keystone.
    Yours Terri

  3. Cristy,
    I was excited to be going to my first Keystone in 2023 but after reading your post I am looking forward to it even more. In 2022, I was able to meet other cross dressers in person a number of times and you are correct – nothing is as good as meeting others in person. Being able to spend four days among 500+ other CD’s is hard to wrap my head around. Can’t wait.
    I already told Kandi I was going to look her up in Harrisburg and I would love to meet you as well. Maybe the three of could do one big group hug!

    Take care,
    Fiona

      1. You know Kandi, I kinda suspected that after seeing about 100 photos of you hugging away, anywhere & everywhere.
        See you,
        Fiona

  4. HI Cristy – As I have so often found you so often put into words thought I cannot express on my own. As one who just began the CD journey in late 2021, this is all very new and wonderful to me. I know that it is the connections with others that has allowed my persona to grow and flourish. I am very much forward to attending the Keystone Conference this year, and meeting with so many others I have connected with over the past year or so. It will bring my entire experience into the realm of reality – yes, all of this is actually happening, and I am quite stoked! I hope to see you, and indeed everyone, there!
    All the best,
    Kris

  5. Thank you Ana Cristina!
    I occasionally travel and get makeovers. And during my last two such trips, I did connect with my Flickr online Friends for lunches and photo sessions. It was a blast.
    Usually it is tied to another trip I have. Now that you have piqued my interest, and since I am intending to share the joy of my Crystal self with my wife, I am hoping I can plan to attend such a conference. I will research Keystone, which I know just ended and welcome any other suggestions you may have.
    Cheers,
    Crystal

    1. Crystal, I’ll let Cristy respond, but Keystone is the best and Erie, PA has a nice one. Those are the closest to me. Not sure where you live, so there may be other suggestions. But Keystone is the best of all of them. 😊

    2. Hi Crystal,

      Thank you for the Flickr comments. Kandi is right in that Keystone is the largest and most important TG conference in the US. There is nothing like attending a big event win which you get to meet with old friends and make new ones. The ambiance is filled with love, care and camaraderie. I definitely recommend you attend at least once but do not know a girl who has not returned after that first time.

      Hugs

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